Lovedrop Lay Report Pt. 2

Lay Report: Lovedrop & his wing pull two 9s (Part 2 of 2)
(...continued from yesterday...)

We talk for a few more minutes and we
get more giggles. We seriously believed
we had to leave so we stand up to leave
and I can feel that the girls want to
come.

I said, “Look, I live two minutes down
the road. It’s a nice place, follow us
in your car and when we get there if you
don’t feel comfortable, just drive
away.”

They follow us home and come into the
house.

At this point there is a great vibe
between the four of us. First, we went
into the living room. There is a big
fluffy white shag rug in there that
feels so good to your feet it makes you
feel like you are walking on a cloud.
The girls go to walk on the rug and I
say “Please no shoes on the rug.” They
take off their shoes and I can tell
that, in that moment, from my girl there
is a moment of hesitation but then she
does it.

Once their shoes are off they are in
love with the feel of the rug on their
bare feet. I turn on the projector and
put music videos on. We are all dancing
to Justin Timberlake and Nelly Furtado’s
“Give it to Me.” (For those who do not
know the importance of removing the
shoes, FYI trust me it’s an important
step, I didn’t write this just for the
hell of it.)

At this point I need to emphasize the
importance of the vibe. If your place
does not look clean as if a woman lives
there, then women will feel
uncomfortable as opposed to feeling a
relaxed, fun, and comforting atmosphere.
Is there harsh lighting in her face or
are there candles, colors and shadows?

Have a good mix of chill vibe music on
your playlist. Not just one genre. I’ll
have a playlist of say Zero 7 then it
will go to 2Pac, Fiona Apple, Daft Punk,
Bob Marley, Bloc Party, Eminem, My
Morning Jacket. Create an atmosphere in
your house. When it comes to lighting
and music, experiment and figure it out
so that you create a fun and comfortable
vibe, not a sleazy player vibe. I want
people to enter that space and feel
good.

My wing gives his girl “a tour” of the
house. The set is comfortable enough to
be split up. At this point I am getting
deeper into conversation with my girl
and we are actually connecting on
another level. I noticed that that she
is very smart, witty and fun. We are
having a lot of fun together.

The point I’m trying to get at here is
that qualification has a higher meaning
then merely faking more and more
interest. What if she actually feels
your growing interest because she is
cool and you do have high standards? It
should be such a natural and genuine
feeling.

By this time I had already managed to
sneak off to my room, light candles and
stash condoms in and near the bed. There
is a pool table in the kitchen area
right outside my room. I asked her if
she wanted to play a game of pool. She
said yes. I got the balls racked up on
the table; meanwhile we are in this fun
conversation on evolutionary psychology.
I say “Oh check out this book.”

My door has been open this whole time.
She has been in my room already to use
the bathroom and has seen the vibe in
the room. She is already comfortable
with the room and it was not forced on
her in any way. In my room there’s the
kind of vibe that under those
circumstances most people would prefer
to be there. The candles are glowing.

During the course of our conversation I
mentioned what a great book I have been
reading “The Evolution of Desire” by
David M. Buss. I recommend this book to
you as well. I walked back into my room
to show her the book, she followed me
and we sat on the edge of bed and
continued to talk about it. The
conversation itself was the centerpiece
of the interaction, the game of pool was
merely a pretense for this. In fact we
hadn’t even grabbed pool cues yet, we
never actually played any pool.

Notice that I deliberately left the door
open; I can always close it later.
Think about how creepy and obvious it
would be if I closed the door as soon as
we entered the room together.

While we were talking I crawled across
the bed to grab something to show her my
wood carving or my rosary or whatever –
I don’t even remember. This created a
feeling like I was moving away (comfort
and value) at the same time creating a
space on the bed for her to crawl up
next to me if she chose to. I did not
motion her to do so – the conversation
was still the center piece.

This is critical time when a guy might
start to get needy or pushy. I knew I
needed X amount of comfort building and
the last thing I wanted to do was get
pushy and paralyzed in the bottom of the
9th.

In that moment I felt I was free from
desire. This is because I live a life of
abundance and I really do feel
comfortable, relaxed and not-needy. The
feeling should be real.

After we talked for a while I did a
compliance test. She was still sitting
on the edge of the bed and I was showing
her something and told her “Come here
let me show you,” and motioned next to
me on the bed. She got the same look of
hesitancy as when she took off her
shoes, so I said to her “Don’t worry I’m
not going to make a move.”

The sub-communication when I said this
wasn’t a begging frame like, “Please sit
next to me I promise I won’t do
anything.” Instead it was a not-needy
frame more like, “Don’t worry I am the
least needy guy on the planet.” As if I
live such a rock star lifestyle that I
have to hire bouncers to keep naked
chicks out of my room.

As this point we continued talking and I
number closed her as a more direct
statement of intent. I timed this to
coincide with one of her DHVs. At the
time she shows value to me such as her
fun and witty conversation, I reward her
with growing interest by getting her
number. I said, “Actually hey, can I get
your phone number?”

Notice that normally in the field I
would say, “Give me your number and
we’ll meet up after.” I would lead her
to give me her number. And instead in
this case I acted a little extra AFC and
said, “Hey, CAN I get your number? I
want to hang out with you again.” I
calibrated this so that it would show
her extra interest and make the A3 come
off more. See how she is “winning me
over,” how I am “realizing” that I
better get this girl’s phone number
because subtext: I definitely want to
see her again.

Like she’s not gonna give me her number
– she’s in my bed! So I don’t have to
lead her firmly through it and instead I
can feign a little insecurity that maybe
she won’t give me the number because
secretly I know that she will. Get it?

I want to emphasize that this was not
calculated, it was calibrated. Practice
time makes me flow with more
calibration, but it is still genuine in
the moment and not planned out in
advance. Those moments just benefit
from my improved intuition as time
passes. This is part of the Zen of the
game for me.

While in conversation I take her hand
and rub the spot between her thumb and
palm and I squeeze her finger tips. The
conversation is still the center piece.
The touching is only a subtext and it
feels normal and natural. Next I give
her my hand and continue the
conversation and she naturally rubs my
hand the same way I rubbed hers. In this
lazy way I lead her through kino
escalation.

There is a yin and yang to comfort. The
yang is that she can count on me to do
my job as a man – to escalate naturally
and comfortably and to lead her through
it. I will be fun, things will happen –
and it’s not her fault.

Whereas the yin is that she can also
trust that I will be unreactive. That I
am outcome independent and that if she
ever experiences discomfort I will stop
and I will be comfortable with it. I
won’t be pissy, pushy, needy, or angry.
And furthermore I will then escalate
naturally again as if it was no big deal
(It’s not.)

Once she feels these yin and yang
energies coming from me, she realizes
she is in control of the process and
things tend to go swimmingly.

My girl initiated the next level of
kino! She starts stroking her finger
tips over my forearm. At this point it
is mutual escalation and we continue our
conversation. God she is so hot! 10,
20, 30 minutes could pass as we talk and
lazily stroke each other with our
fingertips. I’m not rushing her because
I’m not in a rush.

Both of us are touching each other and
touching is escalating as the
conversation continues. The hands are
always moving or rubbing. You can
increasingly touch anything as long as
your hands are always moving. For
example, if you cup a women’s breast too
early on, you are creating resistance.
She will be forced to reach down and
move your hand. It would be creepy.
Whereas if your hand sweeps down across
her body, rubbing her arm, rubbing her
leg, and passes over her breast, she
will experience some of the arousal of
that but there will be nothing for her
to push away. She becomes complicit in
the extra compliance you have built into
the frame. She gets turned on. So this
sort of “breast passing” movement again
starts very slight and non-threatening,
almost non-existent at first, and then
continues to escalate naturally as we
both get more aroused.

Somewhere in this time is when I first
kissed her, which was no big deal when
it happened. I pulled her in for a hug,
rubbing her back as she rubbed mine,
then I kissed her and we slowly started
making out. At one point I stopped
kissing her and looked her in the eyes.
She said, “It’s almost like you’re
asking me for permission,” and I
replied, “I’m not.”

I am writing my own thoughts here on S1
and S2.

As you are rubbing her body and as it
escalates, she will become aroused. As
she becomes aroused it can create a
conflict inside of her. One part of her
wants to have sex and it is aroused –
this is her sexual nature. And there is
another part of her that is an interrupt
mechanism trying to stop the arousal.
For me, beating last minute resistance
is simply a matter of which part of her
mind you are energizing more. As long
as you keep her aroused, that side of
her psychology will win out over the
interrupt mechanism.

For example, the girl in this case, as
long as I was actively rubbing her and
keeping her aroused, she was turned on
and into the escalation. I could see the
struggle within her but she was aroused
and it was escalating. But if I stopped
touching her, then the interrupt
mechanism would immediately take over
and she would start to get up, put on
her clothes, etc. If I touched her
again quickly enough and continued the
arousal, she would go back into the
escalation.

Call it plausible deniability, or that
she was trying to “throw herself out of
state” or anti-slut defense, or
whatever, she obviously has conflicting
emotional drives. This actually gets
down to the very core of sex itself:
that one gender limits access to
replication resources and the other
competes for access to said resources.
This is how sexual selection works! And
how will females limit access to their
replication resources if there is not
some emotional mechanism designed to do
exactly that?

I would expect the variables to change
from girl to girl, culture to culture,
based on amount of attraction,
qualification, comfort, etc, but the
equation is basically the same – with
many expressions.

I’m not going to write some porno
obviously about what happened next. In
retrospect I wish I hadn’t slept with
her because I want to keep her around as
a girlfriend, so I hope I didn’t screw
it up. We’ll see. Worse yet, my wing
did the GF thing with his girl (he held
back from sex because he wants to keep
her) so when the girls talk, he will
look like a big sweetie in comparison to
me. I hope I didn’t screw it up with
this girl by hooking up with her so
fast. I don’t want her to think of me as
a one-night stand.

One other interesting lesson from
tonight: The party could have been total
bullshit the whole time. None of the
people we invited actually showed up.
Therefore, I might as well have just
made up the party when we pulled the
2-set. When pulling, every night is a
“party” at my place from now on. It’s
just another way to oversell the pull
which results in better numbers.

Yeah, I see this.. most of the time men do start off with this kind of escalation with no prior knowledge of what theyre doing!