This is not a field report, its a LIFE REPORT

You might have noticed I haven't posted anything or responded serisouly to anything lately. Actually, for a month now.. Her is the story:

Met this girl.. had fun, everyhting was goin well, asked her out, she is just going into college and decided to not have a relationship until she is settled in, i agreed that it was cool and w.e.. We see each other almost every day and our first real "date" she takes ME out for dinner, and I pay for the movie tickets (its only fair). things go good, she introduces me to her dad and grandparents and i win them over.. except for my driving. Apparently, i drive too fast and her grandma got mad at me, and then her dad dindt trust me in the car with her.. It didn't matter cuz she spent hours with me, sometimes watching a movie, sometimes makeout sessions and shit, sometimes eating and a few times sitting around and just talking about bullshit.. This girl to me was a HB 8-9. She introduced me to her best friend.. Sarah... cool, her friend was a HB 1-2 TOPS. But i was nice to her, and even tried to set her up on a date with a guy that i knew was desperate. It turned out, after he saw her pciture.. he wasn't so desperate and i had make up an excuse which they caught and i told them the truth and all their anger went to this guy.. I invited her over to my house and things went well.. Her friend liked me, at least i thought and I had a great time with her.. I was sure things would be great. SHe even called me late at night and told me about her fantacies about me and i told her i had to go as to not let myself become to available.. It worked, she texted me when she woke up and before she went to bed. Everything was great. Until the first day she moved into her dorm. I went to visit her on her first night and her friend Sarah was sleeping over.. fuck, cock blocked... oh well.. i didn't care, it was a girls dorm so i made friends with her suite mates cuz she had a single dorm and dindt have a room mate, which explains why her friend Sarah was sleeping over, since they both go to the same college. Regardless, we did have a good time and i snuck in a few kisses here and there. Anyways, her stupid dell computer, cuz all WIndows Computers Suck (GO MAC!!!) broke and i fixed it wile she was cleaning up her room with Sarah.. By the way, the girl im talking about, the one I really like is named Samantha.. Lets call her Sam for short. So, my dad is in the hospital and i get really sad and every 5 min she asks if im ok.. so great.. that means she is investing interest and time into me.. whoohoo.. all is goin good.. now.. this hanging out and stuff goes on until around 12:30 when sarah and Sam asked if i was tired, which i knew was my cue to leave, so im like, "no, im not tired, but i guess ill get goin cuz it seems ur tired." and she said, "well, i feel bad for kicking you out." and im like, "its cool, i should probably go to bed anyways cuz i have a hockey tournament in the morning." She walks me down, and her friend came.. her friend is really annoying.. Sarah's backstory is that she is a virgin and never even kissed a guy but she really is a very sweet and amazing girl, but liek i said, she is a HB 1-2.. and unfortunately.. that kills it for her, plus, she dosen't get out much at all. Anyways, she clings on Sam like a fuckin leach and usually i make plans and make sure Sarah won't be there but since they are in the same fuckin dorm building, in the same college, i had to deal with it. So BOTH OF THEM walk me down stairs and i get a peck on the lips form Sam cuz she didn't want to do anyhting in front of her friend... or w.e.. i fuckin hate Sarah, i mean, her dormates, and she has a actual dormmate and a suitmate unlike Sam were fuckin drinking corona and shit, and had a guy in there, why couldn't she make new friends... but w.e. I know this cuz we all went to her dorm room cuz she needed to get something. So back to me.. After that peck on the lips, i pucker my lips as like an air kiss and hear Sarah whisper something or w.e but i ignore it. I didn't hear it.. and i didn't care. I got home and did a complicence test, they both said they were tired, lets see how long it takes them to text me back. So i texted, "I am going to bed now cuz i jsut got home and i intend to visit my dad in the hospital after my hockey game, sweet dreams " EXACTLY LIKE THAT.. she texts me back in a matter of minutes with goodnight. I turn my phone off and put it in the charger.. I wake up and turn my phone on and have no new messages but i don't care.. It means nothign to me.. I spend the whole day kinda freezing her out, and still, no messages, no facebook comments, nothing.. at 6:30 ish i decide to call her and get no answer, then text her with "Hey, whats up?" Its 7:14 now.. and this is all PM guys.... but yeah, its 7:14 now and she hasn't gotten back to me or returned my call. Then, because ive been spending so much time with her, i kinda ignored my other social aliances and they lost interest and stopped talking to me.. My guy friend who didn't liek Sarah is mad at me cuz of that, and its like i literally have no friends left.. Did i really let one girl destroy me, or maybe, if it was that easy for my social aliances to be destroyed.. and my friends gone, they weren't real friends to begin with and just replacable aquaintances.. None the less, i felt horrible and cried.. and in PUA terms and BIOLOGICAL TERMS, my grieving reflex kicked in and i started to cry, i cried cuz i couldn't help my dad and he was sick, cuz i lost all my friends and social aliences.. and when i say all, I MEAN ALL, I cried cuz i POTENTIALLY LOST Samantha. I felt sorry for myself and when i think about it, im 18, i MADE all these social aliences, i MADE these friends myself..and only recently have i gotten into PUA.. the majority of my life, i have been winging it and leaving it to chance, almost gambling.. So i can make more social aliences, i go to college next year, ill meet more people there, ill make better social alliences.. And i know this.. and if a lot of u guys are reading it, ur porbably thinking, WTF DID I READ ALL THAT FOR WHEN HE FIGUERED ITY OUT BY HIMSELF, WHAT AN ASSHOLE. Well, here is where i need ur help dickweed.. and don't call me an asshole.. fuckin retarded mutherfucker.. If i know all of this, why am i still sad.. why am i still angry.. why am i chasing and clinging on to something that is gone and why am i so affected by everyone else.. Those fuckin PUA rats that read 30000000 books and call themselves PUA's.. will say, "you have to work on ur inner game" FUCK YOU!!! Hows that for inner game.. I don't need that kinda advice.. this isn't a field report, ITS A LIFE REPORT! Why do you guys think this is going on and what is ur oppinion on it and what should i do? comon, lay it on me.. and yes I expect you to read the whole THING!!, if u skimmed through it, go fuckin back, and read it, i didn't type all this bullshit so you skim through the bits u think aren't import, they are all important.. Now.. oppinions?

You want advice? Then start being OPEN to it.

Yes, it IS inner game. Fine, cuss me out for it before I've even said it. You will NEVER progress with the attitude that you have. PERIOD. You're wallowing in pity partys for yourself. You were with that girl for a month, never fucked her. Then at the end of this field report that you've written, mind you w/o breaking it up into paragraphs to make it EASIER to draw those that you want help from, you proceed to tell us to basically fuck off.

AND YOU REALLY WANT HELP??????????

Drop the attitude. Straighten that shit out. Face who you REALLY are, not the made up stuff that you've thrown out in the past. You have low self-esteem, which is inner game. Deal with it. If you won't deal with that, NOTHING we say will help you.

Fine, slot me with those 3,000,000,000 PUAs that have read a book and actually have field and life experience, and tell you the one thing you don't want to hear.

kk thx, btw, ive never made anything up. i posted 1 or too RL FR out of many.. unfortunately, i do not like to give away "trade secrets" look what happened to mystery and style, they let like 3 of their great openers out in the name of men everywhere, and a few routines, and now any chicik who has heard of Pick up, and yes, there are those girls.. who watch VH1, i know, its a shocker.. know those routines along with the countless "social robots" who apporach them with these routines and gambits.. and im not the only one, style, who you guys voted greatest PUA 2 years ago said the same thing.. this isnt attitude, its honesty. I have never made anything up.. I never wallow in pity parties anymore cept for my post, "SOMEONE FUCKING HELP ME" besides that, ive never wallowed in a pity party. Although, those parties are pretty fun

I didn't really want help, just oppinions, which is why i ended it with, "Oppinions?" I do not have low self esteem, i have something else, idk what it is, which why i wanted oppinions, its not inner game per ce..

I WANT EVERYONE TO KNOW THIS ONCE AND FOR ALL! I AM USING PUA THE SAME WAY STYLE DID. IT IS A MEANS TO AN END. ONCE I FIND A RELATIONSHIP IM HAPPY WITH, ONCE IM SATISFIED WITH THE WOMAN AND FRIENDS IN MY LIFE I am done... I will never forget what all u masters and stuff taught me.. never will i forget the perfect way to light up my apartment, ho to wear clothes, how to walk with leadership and the attractions switches which i will apply in eveyday likfe with my career of being a doctor and whatnot... but the "lifestyle" that Mystery, Matador, Lovedrop, ect talk about, the poly-amourous lifestyle.. the goin to constant parties fucking a million girls.. sry..its not me. Tripp, u have a loving wife and idk if ur doin this for business or cuz u want to live a poly-amorous lifestyle.. but i won't.. once i find someone, im done.. I will retire my name, jsut as STYLE retired his.. Neil Strauss is known for being a writter.. not a pick up artist to the world.. Style was never his indentity. it was always a means to an end.. I will never travel the globe with Venusian Arts or any of that stuff.. but i will find someone,and when i do.. that will be it.. I am not the first to do this, and i won't be the last..

I'll end this like Mystery ended his first book, "May the Venusian Arts Enrich your lifestyle and [b]NOT DEFINE IT!!!."

And you JUST proved my point.

your whole point was that i had inner game problems, and i kinda reversed it and made it look liek u were the one that had problems.. sry bro. Its ok,i mean, ur cool and all still, i dnt thnk any less of you. But that last comment "you just proved my point" it kinda hurt.. oh well, next time you go on an inner game rant.. please tie up all those loose ends.. make sure i dnt find those little loopholes to get u in.. this isn't amoging.. this is life.. see it, believe it bro.. u make it out to make me look like im the one with the problems. well, look in the mirror.. and if u ever need my help, im here for u bro

Truth hurts. Face yourself and kick this denial shit in the ass.

And next time you want to be condescending toward ANY member of this forum . . . think twice before you do.

what? i think someone forgot his or her happy pills who was i condescending too

RussianStar I will say this once nicely as a moderator! You will stop insulting members of this forum or you will be banned from it. There is no reason to act like this way. If you don't like the answer that L.A. Tripp has provided you then that's perfectly fine. It's a forum and "Opinions", is how its spelled btw, vary! So you are entitled to your opinion.

Having said that I will say this. I can respect your decision to find "the one" and be rid of this community. I have made no secret that I will be doing the same when it occurs. It's too bad that things didn't work out with Sam and everything just kind of happened at once. It's tough when your world crashes around you, believe me I know.

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Well, here is where i need ur help dickweed.. and don't call me an asshole.. fuckin retarded mutherfucker

I can understand your upset but there is no reason for comments like this. You're not mad at this community your mad at what's happening around you in your life. I will say that Tripp does have a point in that if your attitude was better you wouldn't have had a need for saying this.

After what you said about us reading your whole post, you're gonna do me the courtesy of reading mine, although it may not be pleasant, you're gonna learn from it and you'll thank me for it later. This is for your own good, because as we learned from Randy Pausch, "When you're doing something wrong and no one is bothering to tell you anymore, that's a bad place to be. That means they've given up on you. Your critics are the ones telling you they still love you and care." It's called tough love for a reason. We're hard on you because we want you to succeed, not because we want you to fail.

There is a reason we banned you from PUAF Star and it is precisely this attitude problem and denial of any issues you are subject to. The first step to self improvement, is facing the fact that you are NOT a perfect human being (no one is, not a single person on this forum, not a singler person on PUAF, not a single person on the whole god damned planet) and that you have miles to go before you reach the goals you have set for yourself. You think when I go to Tripp or J for advice because I'm depressed about the way things are going (this happened around the beginning of May I believe), that I tell them that I know what the issue is and that they are wrong when they give me their opinions? NO! I open my ears, I open my eyes, I take a good long hard look and I examine myself very carefully to see how they have come to the conclusions they have, because they know their shit and they are at the very least partially right.

I agree with everything they said, so unless you think all 3 of us, who are well known members of the community, not just as pickup artists, but as self improvement specialists, are completely off our rockeres, then perhaps you'll grow a bit of humility and choke back all those insults directed at anyone that tells you things you don't want to hear. You think I wanted to hear it when Tripp reamed me out for having oneitis over the first girl I got into a serious relationship with after I developed some skill with women? Fuck no! I was pretty choked and kinda wanted to tell him to go screw himself, cause I thought better of myself than that, but I asked for advice, so I sucked it up and I accepted that fact that I wasn't perfect and I took a good long look at myself to see how he drew those conclusions. Instead of getting mad at Tripp (thank god, cause he was right as he so often is), I used that anger as leverage to help myself change the things that I wasn't happy with.

You AREN'T happy. I can tell. Don't even bother trying to tell me you are, because that's bullshit and deep down you know it. You come on the forums when you aren't happy and you leave them when you think you are, so due to the fact that you're here now, you obviously aren't happy with your current situation. The way you write, the language you use, the sintax, titles of your threads and the general mood all belie the fact that you aren't happy, so I don't care what you try to fool yourself into believing, you don't have a one of us fooled and if you are arrogant enough to think that one of you is right, vs many of us, then there's just no hope of you ever improving, because as I said, the first step is to admit that you aren't perfect and that there is room for improvement.

You remind me of one of the students I taught in Vancouver at my last workshop; I considered him to be my greatest failure, which is saying something, because if you ask LaRockstar (sorry to bring you into this buddy, you know I have the uttmost respect for you and don't consider you a failure, but I'm sure you can agree with what I'm gonna say) you'll find a man that only recently overcame his fear of approaching women and thus didn't actively participate in much of the workshop he was involved in. This guy basically asked me to give him the tools, the "secrets" as he seemed to view them, to be successful with women, yet he was completely and utterly against changing anything about himself. He figured that if I gave him a few tricks, a few lines and a few methods of doing things, that he would be able to get as many girls as he wanted and much higher caliber women than he was used to, yet he figured he could remain exactly the same as he was before meeting me. Do you understand how ludicrous that is?! That's like saying, "I can only bench press 40lbs right now, but I want you to teach me how to bench 200lbs, but I don't want to have to work out and gradually build up to it, I just want to be able to do it as of tomorrow." It's not fucking possible! You have to make changes in order to get changes, or as you may have heard Mystery say, "If you keep doing what you've always done, you'll keep getting what you've always gotten," which is actually something he learned from reading Introducing NLP as it was written almost 30 years before he ever said it (unless that book took it from somewhere before that, I'd just like to give credit where credit is due).

So we'll come back to this; you're unhappy. You want things to change, so you've got to make some changes. You want to improve the quality of your life, so you've got to improve the quality of yourself. Perhaps a good start would be to attain some of that humilty and humbleness that I spoke of before, as you have chaifing several people on this very forum that are spending time trying to help you, myself included. If you think for a second that we post this stuff in order to insult or anger you, then you're being silly, as that's purely a waste of our time and I sure as shit don't have time to waste, as I'm moving in a week, it's 2:30am and I've already spent about 15min writing this much. We're doing this for your benifit, so stop fighting against us and try to see how you can help yourself with the advice being given.

You're too outcome oriented; you need to stop focusing so much on the results you are getting and learn to be happy with who you are as an individual, because if you keep basing who you are and your happiness upon the results you are getting, then you're gonna be on a continuous rollercoaster of happiness and depression, as I have never met a single person in life, that has had the good fortune to constantly have things go the way they wanted. Take a look at this thread https://puas.forumotion.com/the-pua-beat-f27/slippage-mental-let-down-t2114.htm and read my post to see what I'm talking about. Bad shit happens to me constantly man, you do not have exclusive rights to this phenomenon and I guarantee you that every single guy and girl on here, as well as every single person you can think of, from Britney Spears, to Hugh Heffner, to Michael Jordon, has their share of crap in their life that they aren't happy about, yet we find ways to deal and do our best to stay positive; this often isn't even in spite of the shitty things, but BECAUSE OF THEM! The crap makes us appreciate the good stuff! Sure I'm not so happy when I get screwed by my best friend since grade 5 and my business partner fucks me over, costing me thousands of dollars, or my roommates stealing from me, or my girlfriend leaving me, but when I look at those things, I just think to myself that eventually it will turn around and things will improve, because when you are in a valley, a mountain is sure to follow if you keep going. Even if you end up walking yourself hundreds of feet below see level, if you keep on going, there's mountains down there too, some taller than Mount Everest and if you keep on going even further, then you end up back on dry land and perhaps eventually you do climb Everest and you're on top of the world.

Stop feeling sorry for yourself and instead find ways to improve the conditions that you detest, because there are ways. A few months back, I confess that I lay in bed for nearly a week straight, watching tv and barely leaving my room aside from to get food or go to the bathroom, as I had hit one of the lowest points in my life. Know how I feel today? FUCKING AMAZING! One day I looked at myself and I realised that I could keep feeling sorry for myself, keep blaming myself and others, or I could take steps to improve the situation, so I did. I move in a week, to a city on the other side of the continent, to go back to school, in order to attain a degree, in order to get the career I have dreamt of for a year now and that I pondered as a boy. I'm gonna leave this city that has dealt me good and bad, that has seen the best and the worst of me and I'm gonna try to do even better. I'm gonna get my business going again and I'm gonna make it succeed, because I am passionate about it. Even if things don't work out the way I want, because there will of course be bumps and walls to get in my way; I'll just keep on going and keep on plowing until I do succeed, because that's the attitude you have to have to succeed. Nothing can stop me and nothing can stop you if you care about it enough.

So my advice to you, is to go pick up a copy of Awaken the Giant Within by Anthony Robbins and read it cover to cover (make sure to have a highlighter handy) as it will teach you a lot of amazing tools to break yourself out of the negative patterns you have developed (we all have them, myself, J, Tripp, Michael Jordan and even Tony himself) and instead create new positive patterns in order to succeed. You seem to have this belief that Inner Game is purely related to picking up women, which is utterly wrong, because Inner Game is about how you view yourself, not about how you interact with women, although it IS integral to success with women. This book will do wonders on helping you improve your Inner Game and then when you have made some progress, you can come back and appologize to Tripp for being rude and missunderstanding a concept, which he will undoubtedly tell you is not a big deal, because we've all been where you are now and we understand.

I'm in PUA for relationships. I've learned so many things through PUA on how to provide the girl(s) in my life an amazing experience that I feel indebted, which is why I stick around to help others. I didn't read your thread after I saw the last line and I only skimmed the others. I'd say that if you dated a girl for a long time and were looking to have sex but unable to get it, you should listen to these people as you have a long way to go.

And Rye, isn't there that one perfect guy called Hobbit on PUAF? :-P

Hobbit wrote:

I'm in PUA for relationships. I've learned so many things through PUA on how to provide the girl(s) in my life an amazing experience that I feel indebted, which is why I stick around to help others. I didn't read your thread after I saw the last line and I only skimmed the others. I'd say that if you dated a girl for a long time and were looking to have sex but unable to get it, you should listen to these people as you have a long way to go.

And Rye, isn't there that one perfect guy called Hobbit on PUAF? :-P

You're my golden god Hobbit!

No need to get philosophical Fortunehooks, just respond in a jest and friendly manner. Make it a point to convey a genuine tone, keep things on task, and when in doubt create something. These are just some notes that I embedded into this reply as a reminder to harness all of my effort and intentions on trying to create some sentences that will resonate with you russianstar.
Firstly, I think that you have stay strong for your father right now, that's the most important thing in my view. As a gracious son it is your duty to help your father recover gain the strength he needs to become even stronger than he previously was. It is a bad feeling when you feel that a girl isn't responding in a way in which you have imagined she should. It hurts when we have no comprehension on how we could've prevented that whole scenario from being apart of human history in the first place.
Star, you have been credited with recieving some perfectly timed and thought provoking insight from members of this forum. Personally, I didn't interpret the remarks as personal affirmation, so no hard feelings on my end. In fact, you help me out and create a level of excitement in that respect, personally speaking of course.
The point was mentioned that inner game isn't exclusive to just the venusian arts,and I couldn't agree more. Inner game is motivation, desire, determination, adaptability, survival, and self reliance. All of these traits when sewed together should make an impressionable human being. Star, we want you to succeed, that's one of the main reasons why I am typing to you. I want you to comprehend that you have to alter many of your views, in order to have your sights on the best possible goal. Presently, you are a huge obstacle impeding your own advances. None of us are coming from a place of rightness cervitude, we are coming from a place where our goals are help mend not to breakdown, bro. peace,lvoe and succe SS

You want to see why this is what we're saying it is? Fine. Open your mind and be prepared to see.

RussianStar wrote:

You might have noticed I haven't posted anything or responded serisouly to anything lately. Actually, for a month now.. Her is the story:

Here's Rye's point. When you are happy you're gone from the forum. When you're on the forum, you're not happy. I'm adding to this point. Whether you want to admit it or not, you DO put up a front when you are here because you don't want to admit the truth to yourself or to anyone else. The most damaging part of that is that you don't want to admit it TO YOURSELF.

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Met this girl..

You brag about how you get around with so many diff women, but the fact is, you meet one and get one-itis.

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had fun, everyhting was goin well, asked her out, she is just going into college and decided to not have a relationship until she is settled in, i agreed that it was cool and w.e.. We see each other almost every day

LJBFed. Could have been Fuck Buddies, but didn't turn out that way. You were wanting a full fledged relationship out of this so you are automatically disappointed that she's not going that way.

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and our first real "date" she takes ME out for dinner, and I pay for the movie tickets (its only fair). things go good, she introduces me to her dad and grandparents and i win them over.. except for my driving. Apparently, i drive too fast and her grandma got mad at me, and then her dad dindt trust me in the car with her.. It didn't matter cuz she spent hours with me, sometimes watching a movie, sometimes makeout sessions and shit, sometimes eating and a few times sitting around and just talking about bullshit.. This girl to me was a HB 8-9. She introduced me to her best friend.. Sarah... cool, her friend was a HB 1-2 TOPS. But i was nice to her, and even tried to set her up on a date with a guy that i knew was desperate. It turned out, after he saw her pciture.. he wasn't so desperate and i had make up an excuse which they caught and i told them the truth and all their anger went to this guy.. I invited her over to my house and things went well.. Her friend liked me, at least i thought and I had a great time with her.. I was sure things would be great. SHe even called me late at night and told me about her fantacies about me and i told her i had to go as to not let myself become to available.. It worked, she texted me when she woke up and before she went to bed. Everything was great. Until the first day she moved into her dorm. I went to visit her on her first night and her friend Sarah was sleeping over.. fuck, cock blocked... oh well.. i didn't care

Step 1 . . . yes you did care . . . admit it. If you were at the place in your game that you claim to be, that friend wouldn't have been an effective cock block anyway. I've been in situations with girls where there are others in the room that are NOT involved sexually, and I still have sex with the girl I'm with. Second point, and step . . . admit that you are not where you claim to be.

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, it was a girls dorm so i made friends with her suite mates cuz she had a single dorm and dindt have a room mate, which explains why her friend Sarah was sleeping over, since they both go to the same college. Regardless, we did have a good time and i snuck in a few kisses here and there. Anyways, her stupid dell computer, cuz all WIndows Computers Suck (GO MAC!!!) broke and i fixed it wile she was cleaning up her room with Sarah..

Next point . . . I personally do work on computer problems for the girls I'm in a relationship with and having sex with. With me, it's an added bonus in their mind. With you, in this case, you hadn't gone there yet with her, so it's an added reason for your friendship as far as she's concerned.

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By the way, the girl im talking about, the one I really like is named Samantha.. Lets call her Sam for short. So, my dad is in the hospital and i get really sad and every 5 min she asks if im ok.. so great.. that means she is investing interest and time into me.. whoohoo.. all is goin good..

NO NO NO NO NO . . . this isn't a case of her so much investing into you as it is a case of you whining. If you mentioned it to her one time and drew on her emotions and let her know what your situation was, that would be her investing. For the fact that you remain visibly sad and every 5 min she asks if you're ok, THAT'S whining. Girls don't want a whiner. Now, I'm sorry that you are hurting and that you're dad is in the hospital, but let's put this into perspective. If you don't remain visibly upset, and she asks later if you're sure you're ok, THAT'S a good sign because it THEN shows she's genuinely listening and interested and invested. She shouldn't have to or be expected to ask every 5 mins how you are doing. NO.

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now.. this hanging out and stuff goes on until around 12:30 when sarah and Sam asked if i was tired, which i knew was my cue to leave, so im like, "no, im not tired, but i guess ill get goin cuz it seems ur tired." and she said, "well, i feel bad for kicking you out." and im like, "its cool, i should probably go to bed anyways cuz i have a hockey tournament in the morning." She walks me down, and her friend came.. her friend is really annoying..

What you SHOULD have done here when she asked if you were tired was say "yeah, let's get to bed." But, the way this went it was obvious to her that you didn't have the guts to push that line. Even if you did she may not have gone for it, but you will never know now. Then, she feels bad for kicking you out. But she still kicks you out. Hmmmm. Can we say . . . LJBF?

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Sarah's backstory is that she is a virgin and never even kissed a guy but she really is a very sweet and amazing girl, but liek i said, she is a HB 1-2.. and unfortunately.. that kills it for her, plus, she dosen't get out much at all. Anyways, she clings on Sam like a fuckin leach and usually i make plans and make sure Sarah won't be there but since they are in the same fuckin dorm building, in the same college, i had to deal with it. So BOTH OF THEM walk me down stairs and i get a peck on the lips form Sam cuz she didn't want to do anyhting in front of her friend... or w.e..

Now, it could be that Sam didn't want Sarah to feel bad, or it could be that Sam was being nice to you. You don't know for sure. At times girls plan to stick together at times like this so that the target doesn't get caught up with a guy she's NOT INTERESTED IN SEXUALLY. Sarah could just be clingy, or Sam could have told Sarah "we'll be right back, stay here."

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i fuckin hate Sarah, i mean, her dormates, and she has a actual dormmate and a suitmate unlike Sam were fuckin drinking corona and shit, and had a guy in there, why couldn't she make new friends... but w.e. I know this cuz we all went to her dorm room cuz she needed to get something.

mmhmmmm . . . I see underlying signals here . . .

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So back to me.. After that peck on the lips, i pucker my lips as like an air kiss and hear Sarah whisper something or w.e but i ignore it. I didn't hear it.. and i didn't care. I got home and did a complicence test, they both said they were tired, lets see how long it takes them to text me back. So i texted, "I am going to bed now cuz i jsut got home and i intend to visit my dad in the hospital after my hockey game, sweet dreams " EXACTLY LIKE THAT.. she texts me back in a matter of minutes with goodnight. I turn my phone off and put it in the charger.. I wake up and turn my phone on and have no new messages but i don't care.. It means nothign to me..

Again with the fake front. Just admit it. It DOES bother you. First of all, she COULD HAVE gone to sleep after your text. And really, it doesn't even matter at this point. Not only are you disappointed in the relationship status, but you don't trust her either. You told her good night and she told you the same thing. What's the problem there? She complied. You didn't ask her to text in the morning or anything like that, so sure she could have, but she didn't. But, you can't make a big deal out of it at this point. A person that's LJBFed would have this same thing happen. A girl that REALLY wants the guy would likely text him unprompted in the morning. Not always, but likely.

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I spend the whole day kinda freezing her out, and still, no messages, no facebook comments, nothing.. at 6:30 ish i decide to call her and get no answer, then text her with "Hey, whats up?" Its 7:14 now.. and this is all PM guys.... but yeah, its 7:14 now and she hasn't gotten back to me or returned my call.

mmhmmmm. And this is looking like what? Apparently it doesn't bother her that you froze her out. But then . . . after the freeze out, YOU initiated contact, which tells her that you really want to talk to her, and what does she do? She doesn't respond. Son, there are so many signals here that you are not picking up on. Now sure, she could have been busy, but from what you are saying prior to this, adding this to it . . .

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Then, because ive been spending so much time with her, i kinda ignored my other social aliances and they lost interest and stopped talking to me.. My guy friend who didn't liek Sarah is mad at me cuz of that, and its like i literally have no friends left.. Did i really let one girl destroy me, or maybe, if it was that easy for my social aliances to be destroyed.. and my friends gone, they weren't real friends to begin with and just replacable aquaintances.. None the less, i felt horrible and cried.. and in PUA terms and BIOLOGICAL TERMS, my grieving reflex kicked in and i started to cry, i cried cuz i couldn't help my dad and he was sick, cuz i lost all my friends and social aliences.. and when i say all, I MEAN ALL, I cried cuz i POTENTIALLY LOST Samantha. I felt sorry for myself and when i think about it, im 18, i MADE all these social aliences, i MADE these friends myself..and only recently have i gotten into PUA.. the majority of my life, i have been winging it and leaving it to chance, almost gambling.. So i can make more social aliences, i go to college next year, ill meet more people there, ill make better social alliences..

First of all, it IS your attitude that is destroying your friendships and hindering you from building strong and lasting ones. Admit that and do something about it. And yes, attitude IS inner game. Attitude, low self-esteem, lack of confidence . . . that's all tied to inner game. Admit it and deal with it or ignore it as you always do and NEVER MOVE ON.

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And i know this.. and if a lot of u guys are reading it, ur porbably thinking, WTF DID I READ ALL THAT FOR WHEN HE FIGUERED ITY OUT BY HIMSELF, WHAT AN ASSHOLE. Well, here is where i need ur help dickweed.. and don't call me an asshole.. fuckin retarded mutherfucker..

And THIS is where you are shitting on us BEFORE we ever offer any help. You have just called EVERY SINGLE PERSON THAT READ THIS dickweed and a retarded mother fucker. Geeee . . . and you don't have an attitude . . . or inner game problems???? YEAH, RIGHT. And you're mad at us for calling you an asshole . . . when YOU are the one that called yourself the asshole. Again, attitude and inner game issues.

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If i know all of this, why am i still sad.. why am i still angry.. why am i chasing and clinging on to something that is gone and why am i so affected by everyone else.. Those fuckin PUA rats that read 30000000 books and call themselves PUA's.. will say, "you have to work on ur inner game" FUCK YOU!!! Hows that for inner game.. I don't need that kinda advice.. this isn't a field report, ITS A LIFE REPORT! Why do you guys think this is going on and what is ur oppinion on it and what should i do? comon, lay it on me.. and yes I expect you to read the whole THING!!, if u skimmed through it, go fuckin back, and read it, i didn't type all this bullshit so you skim through the bits u think aren't import, they are all important.. Now.. oppinions?

Now, I DID lay it on you . . . and what do you do? You are condescending to me and won't face yourself and your problems and try to turn it around on me and say that I have problems and that you will help me with my problems.

DON'T ASK FOR HELP IF YOU DON'T WANT HELP.

Now, to make myself PERFECTLY clear to you. I implied this before, but I'm saying it outright now. If you EVER act this way again, asking for help, then shitting on those that offer help, not only will we STOP helping you, but I will ban you for 30 days. If you are EVER condascending to ANY member of this forum again (I haven't been the only one that's been the target of this from you), then I will be forced to ban you for 30 days.

Look boy, I don't WANT to do this, to take this action, but your attitude needs a SERIOUS adjustment. It's about time you do something about that.


BTW, totally off topic, but I see you do this all the time and it bugs me for some reason. "liek" is actually "like"

Wow, everything I thought about you was confirmed in this thread