Compatability by AFC Adam

The biggest mistake people make when it comes to dating is where they choose to meet their "special someone". Today we're going to look at different places to meet someone new.

First of all, be aware that there are many ways to meet people. Some people only seem to believe that they can meet someone in their local bar. When actually it is quite possibly one of the worst. Local bar's are great to socialise in mostly because you meet the same people day in and day out. However, when you are choosing to take direct control over your love life, and genuinely try to improve things, you may not want to be trying this out on people you already know. There are many other areas to choose from if you just take a little initiative.

Change the routines. We're all guilty of getting stuck in a rut. Doing the same thing, day in and day out.

This may sound familiar to some of you. Yet I know there are many people out there, reading this who will still find a whole heap of reasons not to do something different tonight.

Unless you are actually doing something different then you will only be meeting the same people. Your social circle will never grow, and you won't meet anyone new. It's incredibly important to be meeting new people all the time. If you only meet a small selection of people in your life, the chance of you meeting that special someone is greatly reduced in comparison to someone who meets a great deal of people. Think about it. The more people you meet the better chance you have of meeting the right person. The very next person you meet could be your ideal partner. You just have to go that extra mile and get out there.

Regularly going out to new places also gives you an added interest to talk about. Very soon you'll become an expert of where's good to go out, which should give you a lot of conversation, especially as most people just follow the same boring routines...

Remember the aim behind you going out is to actually interact with people. Simply turning up at a new venue with one of your friends and not speaking to anyone, will not add change anything. The aim is to meet as many new people as possible.

This is where the biggest secret to meeting new people becomes apparent. There are people all around us. Simply going to a different bar from the one you normally attend is enough to expose you to an entirely new group of people. The trick is making the decision to actually go out of the way to meet the people when you are there.

Use the fact you've never been there before to get conversation started; asking for suggested locations of places to go, the location of the toilets, there are so many standard basic "ice breakers" which can be used to get the conversation started especially when you're in a new location. Then you can simply move onto a simple discussion comparing the places you've been to the one you are currently in. This kind of conversation is simple and easy to do, as well as coming across as perfectly natural.

If you where sitting in the same bar every night with the same people you may find it a struggle to think of new conversation, whereas now you have ample opportunity.

In my experience of working with different people many of them will spend the time reading up on things they should be doing, but seldom take the chance and actually do something about it. If you take it into your hands to actually try going somewhere new and meeting new people, you will undoubtedly see a massive change in your success.