IOI list

"Quoted from Mystery's book:

*She reinitiates conversations when you stop talking
*She giggles
*She touches you
*She tries to get rapport and build comfort with you
*She looks back and glances at you repeatedly ever minute or so
*She tosses her hair (to see if you will look)
*If eye contact happens from a distance, she holds it for a second
*She smiles at you
*She stands nearby (proximity)
*She interrupts your conversation from nearby or laughs at something you said
*While walking by, she turns her body toward you or brushes against you
*She says something to her friend and they both giggle
*She asks you for a light or the time or in any way initiates a conversation
*While you're talking to her group, she is particularly talkative (to get your attention)
*She asks you for your name
*She asks you your age (make her guess)
*She compliments you
*She is playful and tries to challenge you
*She's disagreeing but laughing
*She's punching your arm but laughing
*She uses nicknames for you
*She plays with her hair while talking to you
*When she is sitting next to you her leg touches yours
*She repeatedly touches you in any way
*She asks if you have a girlfriend
*She mentions your girlfriend without knowing if you actually have one
*When she has to go to the bathroom, she comes back
*She holds eye contact for longer periods of time when she speaks with you
*She avoids mentioning her boyfriend
*If it comes up that you like somthing, she mentions that she likes it, too, or needs someone to show her how to do it
*When she says or does something, she looks at you to see your reaction
*She looks at you from the side, to hide the fact that she's looking
*She introduces you to friends
*She buys you a drink
*She calls you a player or a heartbreaker
*On her way out, she reapproaches you to tell you that she is leaving (Get her #)
*On your way out, she asks you where you are going (Invite her)
*She returns your calls
*She invents reasons to be near you, intereact with you, or have isolation with you

Passive IOIs

*Her friends go (to the bathroom or bar or dancing) but she stays
*She moves to see you and hangs with you for extended periods
*If you move, she follows you or waits for you
*She doesn't flinch or pull back if you happen to get too close
*She doesn't resist when you escalate physically (or she gives token resistence to avoid feeling like a slut)


The most important IOIs to look for are:

*She reinitiates conversation when you stop talking
*She giggles
*She touches you
*She tries to get rapport and build comfort with you"

Shit that is a lot to remember... at what point does this become natural. I'm sure I'm blinded at the fact that so many girls are attracted to me, yet I just think "Nahhh..."

"Dam.

That cougar the other day was giving me IOIs... wtf

LaRock, your attractive!.. there I said it.

Remember swimming upstream develops bigger muscles.. LaRock!!

great list, as expected of Mystery.

I agree that it's quite a comprehensive list,
but I guess that just goes to show I need to keep working on my game


-vH

Great list. It seems a lot to take in but it all internalises and becomes common sense pretty quickly once you have the self belief that you are an attractive guy.

*She says something to her friend and they both giggle

Ok, does this apply pre-approach? Or does this laughing only apply after some attraction/comfort has been built? The natural instinct for me, when I get a look/wishper/giggle from a set I don't know is to feel a bit self consious twards that paticular set. Mind you, if Im having a good time Im not going to let what someone else thinks of me to stop my good time, but it definatly pushes me away from wanting to open that paticular set.

It never amazes me how many of these IOI signals I've received over the years, and just brushed off. I really need to start trusting my instincts. Everything Ive rationally second guessed over the years has been exactly what my instincts have told me. I've probly totally ignored every IOI on this list at least once simply because I lacked the confidence to belive what was before my eyes. Now I see them, and know them, just got to start taking ACTION when I get them....

Sydrian, that definitely applys pre-approach.

LaRock, don't let it overwhelm you. It's seriously not as hard as you're thinking.

I've realized there is an another obvious one that isn't on the list.

jealousy:

If she fights for your attention when you're talking to another girl or gets noticeably pissed-off or upset when you mention another girl this is a huge IoI.

Careful with this one though! Girls who exhibit these traits too strongly are best off being avoided.

randy1random wrote:

jealousy:
Careful with this one though! Girls who exhibit these traits too strongly are best off being avoided.

I'm Nick Jones and I approve of this message.

Crazy psycho bitch: What did you do last night?
Me: Watched a movie with Celia
CPB: WHHHHHHHHHHHHHHAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAT!!!??!!?! Who's Celia!?!?!
Me: Oh, yeah, you haven't met my sister yet.

A year later.
Me: . o O (Why're my tires slashed? There's a note on my car. "You belong with me and only me, I love you so I slashed your tires so you can see that whore anymore. -CPB") Damn. Shoulda' known.