Close Friends

Do you guys consider having close friends a PUA issue or a personal issue? Someone you can trust to open up to, to share anything with, to help you deal with the most intimate parts of your life.

Someone has recently expressed concern to me that our teachings of being unattached from the outcome of relationships with any particular girl in turn causes us to not open ourselves up to any real friendships.

Please discuss honestly and openly. I have my own thoughts about this, but I don't want to throw those out yet, for fear of influencing even one person's own thoughts.

I sincerely want to know where everyone else stands in this thinking.

I think every needs a person of this nature, Who would you vent to not mom?

I vent in the weightroom. The punching bag can be your friend. You don't need someone to vent to but it can help. I don't have any male friends that I would vent to like this. Hell I don't even have any female friends I vent too. People vent to me all the time. I just have trust issues sometimes.

Well, I mean its good to have a place to vent to but the best thing for me is talking to some1 I trust. Or getting it off my chest thru writing or something!

i have a few close friends, but only about 2 or 3 of them i can talk openly with, i dont really talk to anyone i know about any pua issues, ive told them abit about it but not much, i also find it easier to talk to girls about emotions and issues that i might have.

Well hell, I can talk to my younger brother about pressing matters that continually tug at me, or I keep it to myself and pray to not have an ulcer. It's one of those methods I prefer, but I also share alot with a group of people. It really is a type of day issue for me, and if I am in a talkative mood.

Alright, humans by nature are social creatures. Your mood, directly influences those around you. If something is going wrong, even if the other person doesn't say anything they think it. Everyone needs someone. Your life experience is directly related to the relationships you have with other people, the emotional connection you have with them. None of us are perfect, and bottling things up is just running from the truth. If you are a guy and aren't comfortable talking to another guy from an emotional stand point, then talk to a girl. The girls in your life who you aren't with shouldn't just be pivots. They should be your friends, and a few you should be able to talk to anything about.

In every person there is two different methods of thought; the logical and the emotional - logical coming from your head, and emotional coming from your heart. We men, normally think more logical. By not having someone we can connect with emotionally in a non sexual manor we are closing off part of being human. This is where the idea of guys needing to get more in touch with their emotions comes from. This will make you a more whole person; allow you to have more congruency in your life and the decisions you make. You will also notice that your interactions with women are more fulfilling because you will connect with them on a deeper level.

Simple guys, you need to find someone. If you aren't comfortable talking to a guy about shit, then find a girl. Things are a lot easier when you don't fight your battles alone. For me, my friends are the most important thing in the world to me. More so than PU; if it came to getting some ass or helping a friend I would tell the girl off. I may solve my problems with myself first, but if I have a shred of doubt I go to my friends and I know they will help me find an answer. They enrich my life as much as I do theirs.

i dont vent to anyone, if im havin problems i go to my gym and go to floor and pound the floor and do double backs or something like that since im a gymnast and it helps my practice while i vent out anger. or if i cant get into the gym i write songs and play em on guitar