Last night my ex gf and I were sitting in this casino bar “talking” to see if anything can be reconciled. We were having an emotional conversation. She was upset, I was irritated and at times would raise my voice and might have snapped at her once or twice. I felt there were inconsistencies in her stories, and all I wanted was to hear the truth. I’ve caught her in a lie before, and it wasn’t like she ‘fessed up and said “hey, I have to tell you something…” It wasn’t like that at all. She only admitted it after I backed her into a corner with smoking gun evidence. This pisses me off and makes me wonder if I can ever believe her, or if I have to back her into a corner before she’ll tell me the truth.
Anyway….
Our seats were 1-row behind the bar. We’re having our (heated) discussion (there was a band.. I was surprised anyone could hear us) when some eavesdropping drunk guy sitting in front of us turns around and starts to say something. He looked at me and said something like “hey man she’s a beautiful girl and she’s pouring her heart out to you…” before I cut him off.
I said: “this doesn’t concern you. Turn around and mind your own f’cking business.” (remember, I’m already irritated with the answers I’m getting from my ex, so I could have been more polite. I didn’t exactly yell at the guy, just elevated my voice a bit. I was visually pissed.
He said “no, I won’t”
He starts to talk about her again (“she’s a beautiful girl….”) and I say:
“I don’t give a sht what you think or what you have to say. This is a private conversation turn the f’ck around and stay out of it”
This guy and I go back and forth a few more times when I get up out of my chair, walk to his stool and stand over him. I told him something like “You need to turn around and shut the f'ck up. This has nothing to do with you and I don't give a f'ck what you have to say”
By this time, everyone at the bar was aware of what was going on.
He says “oh! Oh! You want me to stand up too?” He stands up. He’s about my height, fat, and on the trashy side.. We get nose to nose. He puts his hands on me, as if to pull me in to say something. At this point, I was just about to punch him in the mouth but my ex jumped in between us and tried to diffuse the situation. I'll get nose to nose, but I will NOT let another man put his hands on me. It was obvious he had no interest whatsoever in fighting me. He tried to pull me in to introduce himself, apologized, and tried to shake hands. I told him to get f’cked then I grab my drink, the girl and we headed to another bar in the casino..
Wow.. Never lost my cool like that before. What would you guys have done?
I know losing your cool is a no-no in PUA... but frankly, I think she digged it..