Need help, girl already has BF

Alright, so I recently got into the PUA world and I started opening on this girl... I hung out with her a few times following that and I really like her. Now, this isn't a case of one-itis however I was just about ready to ask her out on a date when I found out she has a BF. . . should I just get over this ASAP and flush her?

jpz109 wrote:

Alright, so I recently got into the PUA world and I started opening on this girl... I hung out with her a few times following that and I really like her. Now, this isn't a case of one-itis however I was just about ready to ask her out on a date when I found out she has a BF. . . should I just get over this ASAP and flush her?

Well it depends on how you found out she has a boyfriend. If she told you that she does then I would tell you to move on and cut your losses. If you found out from a 2nd had source then maybe she isn't so happy with her boyfriend and that's why she didn't tell you about him. In which case ride it out for what it's worth. She has to be responsible for her actions after all. It's your decision of course but at this point you can bail and move on which is a good move. Also, you can ignore it and keep on gaming her.

jpz109 wrote:

Alright, so I recently got into the PUA world and I started opening on this girl... I hung out with her a few times following that and I really like her. Now, this isn't a case of one-itis however I was just about ready to ask her out on a date when I found out she has a BF. . . should I just get over this ASAP and flush her?

Welcome to the forum jpz. As J said, it really depends on how you found out. However, I would say, even if she is the one that told you, I'd bluntly ask her about the relationship. She still might not be happy with him.

^^ She just broke up with him so I'm moving in...

Hey just because she broke up with the guy,be cautious cus she is in the mind frame of needing a friend and if you fall in she wont let you back out...Although you could work it to were its a rebound thing but you have to "leave her better than you found her" Don't hurt the girl anymore than she might already be man....

I really like her a lot :/ I don't intend on hurting her and she likes me a lot... shes always looking around for me and im always lightening the mood

well if its like that then game on.....have fun good luck!

As Jamie pointed out, it's a slippery slope you're on right at this very moment. With her being on the rebound, she's MAINLY looking for a friend, THEN looking for a possible fuck buddy. Just because she's always looking around for you does NOT mean that she definitely slots you into the fuck buddy category already. Girls are so comfy around their friends that they are their comfort zone, so they want them around all the time, and want the guy they spread their legs for around when they are horny.

You have to make sure she's actually attracted to you. Flip the attraction switches asap.

Hmm, I've recently joined the community, i'm familiar with the whole process but what do you mean by the attraction switches? The protector of loved one etc. things?

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