Notes from StyleLife Academy Conference

WEST COAST CONFERNECE 2007
THE QUICKSWITCH FIELD REPORT
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Friday Night, 5:15pm

As I rushed into the lobby of the Roosevelt Hotel, late
for the conference, I casually glanced to my left and
froze.

I was staring at the exact spot where Style had
originally met Mystery four years earlier, and had
completely transformed himself from an average,
frustrated chump, into a pickup guru.

That particular meeting, and Style's journey to
attraction mastery were forever immortalized in "The
Game", and as a result this small area of couches and
chairs felt like hallowed ground.

I muttered a silent prayer to the pickup gods for clarity
of mind, strength, and an open heart.

There was a sort of magic in this place.

If Style could undergo a complete transformation, so
could I. And where better to start my journey to
attraction mastery than the exact same spot that Style
had?

All these thoughts coursed through my mind as I went up
two flights of stairs, and to the end of the hall to
register.

After signing a waiver, getting my conference materials,
and putting on my STYLELIFE name tag, I took a deep
breath and pushed open the heavy black doors into the
conference room.

No time was going to be wasted. Style kicked things off
with an engaging opening talk and interactive
demonstration where he immediately delved into the
secrets of truly getting to know somebody. If this was
any indication as to what the rest of the conference was
going to be like, I knew I was in for a real treat.


Friday Night, 6pm - Friday Night Stylelife Coach Track

I glanced down at my syllabus and scanned my choices for
the opening night's break out session.

The cool thing about the format for the Stylelife
conference was that it featured their new coaching tracks
where you could choose which topic you wanted to learn
about.

Below are the choices I was looking at:

Kino 101 with Evolve and Gypsy
Attitude Adjustments with Bravo
Routine Stacks with Tommy D
Approach Anxiety with Diego and Monte Cristo

The Approach Anxiety track stuck out as the logical first
choice. Approach Anxiety is typically the first hurdle
that every social artist has to conquer and it seemed
like a good introductory class to start off the weekend.

Diego turned out to be an excellent, enthusiastic, and
eccentric instructor.

If you have never met Don Diego Garcia, you owe it to
yourself to register for whatever event Stylelife is
having next, just to hear his take on attraction. He
greeted us stone-faced, dressed in a full police
officer's uniform, complete with aviator shades, a baton,
and a militant attitude.

The first thing he did was get us "in state" by having us
scream "SIR YES SIR!" to his affirmation statements.

Diego: "Will you give 100% of yourself this weekend to
eliminate self limiting beliefs and negative thoughts?"

20 Aspiring PUA's: "SIR YES SIR!"

And so on and so forth. Here were Don Diego Garcia's main
points:

The seminar high will die soon after we leave the hotel,
so you have to make it a PRACTICE to INCORPORATE
approaching into your lifestyle so that you aren't just
approaching hot girls at a club, you are approaching and
opening cashiers, old ladies, guys, people at bus stops,
whoever, in your day to day life. Engrain it into your
being and it will flow naturally once in attraction
situations.

We were then introduced to coach Monte Cristo, who lives
in Puerto Rico; he gave us some very interesting and
valuable advice:

1. We are our own best coaches,
2. Everything we needed was within us already.

"The you that you think is you, is NOT you." We already
know what we need to do; the hard part is actually acting
on our intentions.

We then watched a very enlightening video that Monte
Cristo created specifically for Stylelife, which walked
us through the abolishment of Approach Anxiety.

The first point of the video was to "put yourself as the
first priority." To develop a good and healthy self
esteem, and develop your skills in a healthy, genuine
fashion.

Here are the stops Monte Cristo advised to get over your
approaching fears:

1. Gratitude - You must understand your own worth and be
thankful for that. You will never be ready to receive if
you cannot be grateful for what you already have.

"Don't dwell on your bad decisions," he said, "because
every choice you made at the time that you made them --
all of your life experiences that led up to that moment
-- prepared you to take that exact path, exactly as it
happened. It was meant to happen, even though you may not
feel that way."

"Also, your past experiences do not make up who you will
become. They are two separate things and you can make the
choice to be different, NOW."

2. Detachment - When a girl turns her back on you how do
you react?

A. That ice queen! Oh man that hurts...
B. Eh, whatever...NEXT!

Remember that nothing externally can harm you if you are
confident about who you are INTERNALLY.

After all, she doesn't know a THING about you! She
doesn't know how complex and deep you are, that you have
dreams, ambitions, hopes, loves, and people who love you
and trust you. Only you and those closest to you know
that. She met you five seconds ago. Remember that.

Why do we take someone's cursory estimation of us so
seriously? Think about this next time you approach a
beautiful woman.

As the film ended Diego added, "The difference between me
and other men is that they won't approach a woman because
she is beautiful. I APPROACH a woman BECAUSE she is
beautiful!"

The whole class was filled with nuggets of great tips
such as:

- Don't let The Game get to you...and you will win.

- Get the CONCEPTS and PRINCIPLES of The Game down and
the bits and pieces will fill themselves in.

- The best time to do positive affirmations is just as
you are about to go to sleep and as soon as you wake up
(the intersection where the conscious and unconscious
meet).

Diego concluded with a presentation on the key concept of
"self-anchoring", why it can boost your game, and how to
do it.

Overall, this was a very informative class that I’m glad
I chose to attend.


Friday, 7pm - Main Conference Room: Style's Book Reading

Even though this time was dedicated to Style's book
reading, he couldn't resist sharing some of his most
current and effective techniques, including Style's Flake
Test...

In order to prevent women from flaking on you when you
set up a Day two, Style created this simple and highly
effective routine, which he shared exclusively for the
students at the conference. It was quite amazing to
learn, and I’m definitely looking forward to using it.

Then, Style read a story from his new "The Style Diaries"
book, which hits stores on December 18. This book is a
collection of stories like the adventures found in "The
Game", they all have immediately applicable lessons
and illustrate the funny experiences that Neil went
through when he was just starting out.

Sometimes you forget that the mighty Style was also a
struggling AFC at one point, so the story reminded us
that we all start at the same place, and that we were on
the right path by being at the conference.

The conference ended for the night, but the night was
definitely not over. They also surprised us with sign-up
sheets for some of the biggest clubs in LA that
conference members could get on the VIP list for. These
are stories for another time...it was time to go out and
open multiple sets, then get some rest before Saturday’s
full day...


Saturday, November 3, 9am -
Openers, Value Building, and Disqualifiers with Style

After an interesting night of applying our skills in the
field, we found ourselves back in the main Academy Room
learning openers, value building, and disqualifiers from
Style.

The first things he taught us were some wicked magic
tricks you could use to demonstrate higher value, using
common items.

He taught us 7 tricks that anyone can pull off without
being "that cheesy guy" and that everyone in your set can
have fun with.

1. The knot trick, which you can do with your Stylelife
necktie.

2. An ESP trick you can do with a wing.

3. A drinking bet trick that is fun and playful.

4. Evolve's quarters, beer, and dollar trick.

5. The matches DHV game.

6. Necktie around the neck trick.

7. Invisible drink the shot trick.

Then we got down to some more theory...

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Style’s thoughts on Approach Anxiety -

One of the biggest obstacles that every social artist
encounters is Approach Anxiety. Every man fears the
social and sexual humiliation of being blown out, plus it
is evolutionarily hardwired into our systems from our
history as a tribal society.

Below are snippets of just a few of Style’s tips for
overcoming AA:

1. Don’t just wait to interact once you get to the club.
If you know you're going out that day, interact BEFORE
you get to the club. Talk to the cab driver, the deli
guy, whoever you come across. That way you'll be
warmed up BEFORE you get to the club.

2. Remember your last success like it just happened.

3. Three second rule - Don't wait longer than three
seconds to approach.

4. Be Non Reaction Seeking - No matter how good you are,
if you are reaction seeking...YOU LOSE!

5. Strive for Competence - Once you know what to do...
your mistakes will start to diminish.

Style's 5 Steps of The Game -

There are many different ways to organize the steps of
the game in your mind, and each student of the Stylelife
academy is encouraged and taught how to develop their
own; Style supplied his as one possible guide to follow;
here’s a quick summary:

1. Open - Your goal is to show "Why You?" and to get
the "hook points" where the group will fight for you to
stay around.

2. Demonstrate Value - Just because you're
interesting, that doesn't mean anything. Why are you
DIFFERENT?

3. Emotional Connection - Here is where you can finally
ask her name, what she does for work, and all the
other things that most guys ask FIRST.

4. Create a Call to Action - Make her want to cross
the line.

5. Create a Physical Connection - Kino!

The lessons shifted back to openers as Style covered some
of the finer points on successful delivery. Here are a
couple of the many tips he shared:

* Your body language should indicate that THEY are not
special. This opener could have been directed to ANYONE,
THEY just happened to be standing there as you thought of
this.

* Knowing the principles of how Openers WORK is more
important than memorizing the line itself.

Then Style introduced one of Stylelife's Secret classes
of openers (The Behavioral Opener) and had The Sneak
demonstrate a couple great examples:

1. The "I know Kung Fu" Opener
2. The SNIFF - "Oh it's not you" Opener

Now that Opening had been covered in detail, Style dug
into the next step...the specifics of Demonstrating
Higher Value.

Among the important things we learned was to remember
that when running a DHV routine:

1. Don't be the entertainer, the dancing monkey.
2. Don't enthusiastically agree to do "tricks and games".

Here are some good DHV Routines to run:

1. Rings routine
2. Five questions routine
3. Evolve's quarters routine
4. Gyspy's thumb war routine

Style ended the morning session with a series of pivotal
Game points, including this one:

Even when you're from out of town, natives of that town
will find it needy if you ask THEM where to go. Instead,
do some basic Google research and BE THE PARTY.

"Hey, my friends and I are going to check out Little Italy
tomorrow afternoon and get some gelato...you should come
along..."


12 Noon, Lunch Room

Body Language Panel with All Coaches

When it came time for lunch, the coaches didn’t even
break to eat...they continued to teach as the meal went
on. This lunch panel was an in-depth discussion on the
three types of Body Language:

1. Personal
2. Interactive
3. Display

As you can imagine, I can’t give away all the great tips,
but I will share with you a few bits from each category
that will illustrate how deeply they covered body
language.

PERSONAL BODY LANGUAGE -

Gypsy talked about the importance of posturing, and how
you carry yourself. Bravo spoke about never leaning in
and "pecking" when speaking to women. Tommy D taught us
to take up as much space as we need, and to not be afraid
of being felt and seen. You shouldn't shape yourself for
your environment. Make your environment make room for
you. Evolve said to match your push/pull body language
with your push/pull conversation. Diego instructed us to
assume the body language dynamics of a girlfriend and
boyfriend to build comfort.

Style then showed a student a personal space and body
language exercise. By pushing your back against a wall
and pretending you are always propped up against a flat
surface, you look and feel more confident. After watching
him do it, the student did look 100% better and more
confident.

INTERACTIVE BODY LANGUAGE -

Bravo explained we should slow everything down and be
aware of our surroundings. It is key to know where you
are and what your body is doing. Tommy D spoke on using
facial expressions, women do it and you can convey a
LOT through them. Diego reminded Stylelife Students
to include their body language (as they perceived it) in
their field reports so the coaches can give feedback.
DJ spoke on Eye contact and gave the following tip, look
at her in just her left eye, as full eye contact may be
too intense for some.

Style then explained the concepts of speaking over your
shoulder, approaching the head person to get the group to
follow, not putting your icy cold drink between you and
the woman you desire, and much more...it’s wild how much
information this guy has in his head on every single
topic.

DISPLAY BODY LANGUAGE

Style ended the body language presentation by going over
'Display Body Language', and providing a host of specific
tips and tactics to use when out in a public place, such
as, "Don't look around the room...EVER! It shows
neediness and lowers social value." Followed by complete
explanations detailing the 'why' behind each tip, and
what to do instead...


Saturday, 1pm - First Coach Class Track
Esoteric Principles with Evolve and Gypsy

At this point, the one-of-a-kind track based learning
system was put into full effect. I got to choose exactly
what types of courses I wanted to study, and when. As far
as topics of interest for women go, Esoteric Arts is
ranked pretty high. So learning some of this stuff was a
good idea. I picked it as my first track.

Evolve and Gypsy showed a passion and deep knowledge of
the topic, and just as important, how we could apply it
in the field.

Astrology is an ancient art because since the beginning
of time everyone could see the stars and wondered if our
fates were linked to them.

Every sign has an accompanying elemental quality, a moon,
and a sun sign.

You were either a masculine or feminine sign, and were
associated with the elemental signs of fire, earth,
water, or air. Each signified personality traits.

You could use this information as qualifiers and
disqualifiers within your interactions.

There are many openers, DHV routines, and even day two
seeds that become available to someone with knowledge in
astrology. They were all taught to those in attendance.

We then received a detailed how-to guide and live
presentation of Gypsy's Palm Reading Routine.

From there, Gypsy presented his entire palm read routine,
start to finish. Including some "palm reading pebbles"
you can toss out to keep the conversation active and
interesting. The information here was enough to get
anybody out in the field applying this stuff right away.

The presentation ended with an instructional lesson on
reading tarot, which Style himself even jumped into to
share his favorite tips and tactics. I was pretty blown
away by the amount of value I got in a single hour, and
this was just the start of my journey...


Saturday, 2pm - Second Coaching Class Track
Organizing Your Life with DJ

As a SOCIAL artist, I saw the value of organizing your
life and positioning attraction as a PART of my life, not
making it my LIFE.

DJ's class was an obvious choice.

DJ seemed to have every aspect of his life in balance,
and had a genuine desire to share this knowledge with the
Academy.

His philosophy consisted of this mantra, "Curiosity,
Creativity, and Flexibility"

1. Clean! Your environment reflects your inner state
(look up some Feng Shui principles)

2. Prioritize the things in your life -

A. Make a list of what is most important to you and
make sure your time reflects these priorities.

B. Then cross off what doesn't make you grow as a
person...

C. Make a list of things you like to do just for fun.

D. Understand the difference.

E. Fill out what you do in these 4 main areas of life:
Spiritual Growth, Exercise, Income, and for Fun.

3. Balance in life - walk the line, don't go too far over
to one side.

4. Meditation - Take time to reflect.

5. Allow - Be clear on your goals, but then let them
happen.

6. Finances - Have 6 months of living expenses lined up
and live within your means. If this means cutting out
the clubs and bars for a while, so be it.

7. Be Humble - Being a jerk will get you nowhere.

Creating Intentions - Your Desires

1. See it.
2. Hear it.
3. Taste it.
4. Feel it.
5. Smell it.

As you meditate about this, let a SOUND escape your lips
as you experience the deepest desires of your heart,
express it with a hand gesture, etc...

Then...LET IT GO!

Check in every day to make sure you are on track to
achieving your goals...


Saturday, 3pm - Third Coach Class Track

Principles of Magic with Bravo

There are only two ways you can successfully pull off
magic...

1. If it is already a strong part of your identity and
your personal image.

2. If you can bring it out of nowhere, nonchalantly.

So don't be "that guy" (unless it is congruent with your
personality) the one who walks around with a rabbit, a
multi colored handkerchief, and a top hat in your back
pocket.

Instead, use items that are natural to the environment.
Bravo taught us perfect illusions to use in the field.
He taught us the "Lifesavers Trick" and "Invisible
Thread" illusions. This is magic that people don't see
coming, so it never comes off cheesy or lame.

As an added bonus, Bravo gave each one of us a special
deck of cards and taught us a killer illusion that we
could take home with us to practice and master.


Saturday, 4pm - Forth Coach Class Track
Kino 101 with Diego and Lovedrop

A longtime legend of the community and Venusian Arts
instructor, Lovedrop came in as a surprised unannounced
guest and brought an entirely new kind of energy to the
classroom.

With shades on and an almost "too cool for school"
attitude, Lovedrop epitomized the "active disinterest"
preached in The Game.

His first point was to learn the PRINCIPLES of Kino
rather than specific techniques and everything would fall
into place faster.

He stated that the MOST IMPORTANT thing to remember when
practicing Kino was to be NATURAL. Everything that
happens should happen spontaneously and without an
agenda. Once the woman can sense your intentions, you
become creepy.

So you can't be consciously aware of what's happening or
be interested in the outcome.

Never make a BIG, exaggerative movement as this will
probably freak the people out. Instead, use small,
precise and unobtrusive movements, especially in the
beginning. Use compliance which builds momentum to the
point that any kind of touching becomes NORMAL. So that
NOT touching would be ABNORMAL.

Lovedrop then went on to explain the concept of taking
baby steps towards the bigger goal of building comfort.
He explained a process of creating tension, then taking
it away.

He then wrapped up his presentation by teaching us how to
effectively approach, maintain proper space, do things
casually, and convey that you are socially intelligent,
while at the same time, you are giving her a history of
social teasing and ease, so she is comfortable with
everything you do.


Saturday, 5pm- To Be Continued