L.A. Tripp Admin
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| Subject: StyleLife's 5 Attraction Keys Thu Mar 20, 2008 10:51 pm | |
| Attraction Key #1: YOUR SMILE
Never underestimate the power of a smile. Smiling is a classic social technique, no doubt...but it is still a micro-method that we need to be reminded of. After all, we aren't looking at our face most of the time, so we tend to forget the default expression we are emitting. Remedy this condition by installing a mirror facing you at your desk, or another place where you spend a lot of time. Look into the mirror often and upgrade your expression.
Smile at yourself. It's not vain. It's social training.
I know sometimes life can get you down. For example, when watching the nightly news, the number of stories of people hurting people far outweighs the number of stories of people helping people. What does that do to your psyche? Your default state of mind? Your facial expressions? It brings you down.
It's up to us to consciously seek out and choose positive, inspiring, and uplifting messages, mentors, and media. It's up to us to bring smiles into our relationships with others.
A great smile emits from your eyes, not your mouth. The showing of teeth with dead looking eyes would be more of a grimace than a smile. I'll never forget one time I was in Los Angeles and learned why they call it "Tinsel Town". My waitress smiled at me, but her eyes were a vacant haze. It was forced. She was surely not thinking truly pleasant thoughts. Tinsel may be pretty at first, but it is inauthentic, and easily detectable as fake. Take the time to build a pleasant state of mind required to transmit warm, sincere smiles.
Attraction Key #2: YOUR LAUGH
Laughter is the release of emotional tension. It's a great way to manage the emotional ups and downs that sometimes occur in life. If you and your partner are laughing together, you will be much more likely to want to see each other again.
* Generate laughter by saying and doing funny things.
* Learn and tell jokes, riddles, and fun games.
* Fine tune your funny bone by listening to professional stand-up comedians. It's fine to enjoy the performance, but you also need to be listening with a new set of ears now. Listen with your learning mind to model the comedian's expressions, their word choice, their vocal intonations, their facial expressions and hand gestures.
* Be able to perform some short interpretations of your favorite stand-up comedy skits. If you are a professional comedian yourself, it's improper to steal other people's material, but if you are simply on a date, it's fair game, and recommended.
Attraction Key #3: YOUR BANTER
Banter is playful teasing. It's a funny way of making personal jokes with your partner. Sometimes banter can even be potentially offensive, as you experiment with light hearted ridicule and mocking of your partner. As with most ventures, "No risk, no reward."
Banter shows that you are not boring and you are willing to extend outside your comfort zone of politeness. It tests the limits of propriety with amusing role play, sometimes even imitating your partner, by exaggerating their mannerisms.
Banter is not serious; it injects a mood of silly levity into your interaction. If you have a romantic interest in your partner, you can sprinkle your banter with sensual innuendo. If your partner returns your banter with witty quips of her own, this is a good sign, keep the mood light and happy and play along.
Attraction Key #4: YOUR ENTERTAINMENT
Who is she going to call when she wants to have fun? When she is bored? When nothing else satisfies her? If you want her to call you, combine the aspects of smiling, laughing, and banter, and then mix in some customized activities that you and your partner enjoy together, you can reach a level where you are entertaining each other to mutual satisfaction.
Different people are entertained by different activities, and after some quality time together, you will need to learn about your partner to see what entertains them best. Some options include:
- Music concerts. Are you both entertained by the same kind of music?
- Movies and theatres. Are you both entertained by the same genre of film?
- Art museums and galleries. Are you both entertained by the same kind of fine arts?
Explore these areas of common interest and turn them into fun and exciting adventures and bonding experiences. If the two of you are enjoying some of your favorite things, and enjoying the company of each other, each night you are together will definitely be a night to remember.
Attraction Key #5: YOUR SHARED EXPERIENCES
The highest level of attraction is known as the peak experience. Shared exhilaration will burn a neural pathway that associates you with good times in her mind. Take her breath away. Find out what her thrill is and enjoy it together. Share a new thrill she has never had before. For example, give her a ride on the back of your motorcycle. Go parachuting together. Go surfing, snowboarding, or rollerblading.
With the keys Attraction, Rapport, and Romance on your Dating Key-Chain, you will be able to win her heart, mind, body and soul. | |
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Fortunehooks1 Tripp's Vault Member
Number of posts : 849 Age : 42 Location : USA Fort Worth, Texas Reputation : 1 Registration date : 2008-03-24
| Subject: Re: StyleLife's 5 Attraction Keys Sat May 24, 2008 8:45 pm | |
| Everything that sytle described in that article is exactly what I have been doing lately. All five of these elements have hot chick succe SS all over them. peace,lvoe and succe SS | |
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