Building a Time Bridge - Mystery

What IS a Time Bridge?
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A time bridge is an OPTIONAL move in your game that you play ONLY IF you cannot
follow the standard gameplan of EXTRACTION (formerly and similar to INSTANT
DATING). If you both have the time and interest, isn't it better to continue
the sarge rather than try to continue it at another time? So the normal
gameplan will have you saying something like, "I'm starved. Let me grab a
bagle. Come join me" (day time), or "I need to grab an envelope from the post
office, come keep me company" (day time) or "We're on the guest list for a
better club. Come with us." (night time) or "I'm starved. Let's head over to
for some " (night time).

Extraction BTW is the term we use when we wish to extract her from the MEET
LOCATION and get her to another location (a RAPPORT LOCATION -- which COULD
also be a SEDUCTION LOCATION like her house but only if you have enough rapport
alaready). ISOLATION happens when you get the target away from her group and
sitting with you 1:1. extraction happens when you get her (and her group) out
of the club or library and to another location for rapport building.

OK so she isn't going to EXTRACT. Then what? Well, you try to build as much
rapport as you can (Rapport = Comfort + Trust). You do this by performing
specific comfort and trust building moves. then its time to build a TIME
BRIDGE.

the purpose of a time bridge it to bridge the gap of time that keeps you apart.
You are with her NOW and the time bridge will allow you to be with her again in
person so that you may continue the sarge (a sarge goes from MEET TO SEX and
not from MEET TO #). Merely getting a # is NOT a bridge because a bridge must
have two sides. a # does have a definitive other side. you call and are left
with trying to set a date to see eachother again. If only you did that in the
FIRST PLACE, you wouldn't even NEED her #. That is why one of the best time
bridges is the LOCATION TIME BRIDGE. The idea: instead of getting merely a
number (that is like a stairway to the clouds, not a bridge to a definitive
time and place where you are with her again in person to continue the sarge)
you set a TIME & PLACE to meet up again. You should be prepared with 2 or 3
OPTIONAL LOCATION TIME BRIDGES for when you can't EXTRACT.

Some LOCATION TIME BRIDGE examples:

1. "I'm picking up some shoes at tomorrow. Come keep me company and we can
window shop."

2. "I've got to drop off some stuff to my sisters. Come keep me company for the
drive. I'll pick you up @ X:XX pm."

3. "I have a dinner party in 2 weeks. You HAVE to come!"

Notice how you already have a REASON to SEE eachother in PERSON again. If you
just got the #, you'd have to TRY to convince them to see you again. In a
LOCATION TIME BRIDGE, you don't even need to get her #. (If she flakes and
doesn't meet you at the LOCATION you specified, don't think a # would have made
the situation any better - at least you KNOW she isn't interested. don't get
pissed if you get stood up; it's better to get stood up than to deal with 2
weeks of phone blurring). So you don't need to exchange #s. Exchanging #s
conforms too much to the stereotypical DATING FRAME. If she won't meet you
again, then the problem was with your not building enough rapport in the first
place.

In the above examples (if you have other example LOCATION TIME BRIDGES, please
post), the first two examples do not require you to get her #. you MAY, but I
don't recommend it. Just make sure the locations you choose are conveniently
near your house or where you plan on being anyways. dont go out of your way to
meet a girl who MAY flake on you. In the 3rd example, you may get the #. You've
got 2 weeks to put together a dinner party! or better yet, call her the next
day and use the phone to establish greater rapport. and maybe construct
opportunities to have her meet you at a LOCATION at a specific time.

The point is, if you've built enough rapport to get her #, then it HAS to be
enough to SEE HER AGAIN. If you get the # but she DOESN"T want to see you again
in person, that's a # that will BLUR anyways.

Now for the main reason why I began this post: I went to a mall yesterday and
sat beside an old man in the crowded food court with my Made in Japan meal. He
started to talk to me about this and that: how skateboards used to be just
metal wheels on wood boards and not they are fiberglass and such. Well, I just
wanted to eat my food. I nodded but didnt want to invest in the conversation
(nothing personal, he was a nice enough man and all, just ... not my type
haaa). I was displaying to him IODs (Indicators of Disinterest). I didn't want
to say, "please don't talk to me" as that would have been rude and
confrontational. well, many women will find themselves in the same position
(I'm thinking GWM -- how he doesn't care and will keep going til she either
sleeps with him or tells him to screw off). There are several IODs and I
conveyed a couple of them to this old man. I overted my eyes to him, I opened a
magazine and flipped through it while he was talking, I got REALLY into my food
and I answered his questions with one liner answers. Now Im not saying that you
should GIVE UP when you get some IODs because you can always turn it around
(the old man could have talked about something that fascinated me and I maybe
would have shared a conversation with him -- a note to how important it is to
initiate an inherently INTERESTING conversation), but imagine if after this
conversation with the old man that he tried to get my number. Think how fucked
up THAT would be. I mean, I've gotten guys #s before. That's how we make male
friends and buds. But imagine if this old man wanted to 'hang out'. I be like,
"um, no thanks." see, this is what a lot of guys put women thorugh. a brief 30
seconds boring talk and then they HIT ON THE GIRL by asking for her #. Women
are ULTRA-SENSITIVE (at least the hot ones who have been hit on in this way a
slew of times) to this. So when you DO attempt to construct a TIME BRIDGE, make
it natural. have a REASON to see eachother again. build enough ATTRACTION and
RAPPORT to MERIT her WANTING to hang with you again.

Don't be the old man in this story.

Mystery