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hey everyone,hope yous dont mind a paddy on the forum,im very new to this and im lookin for a bit of advice,i found out about this through jsmooth and he reckoned you guys could help me,heres my problem,im a good looking bloke and pretty flash,style and sportscar and all that but im a real nice guy and some off my friends who dont hav what i hav tend to get more attention by the way they act,im kind of shy and not that confident,im not really looking to become a pick up master as such just to round myself off a bit better,could you help me with the basics and the big no no"s! thanks lads

DeeBee, hey man, so good to have you here! J is a really good guy. He brought you to the right place.

You don't have to change who you are, but you do just need to be more confident IN who you are. You need to know that who you are is great and let the social part of you come out, because believe me, it's there.

It comes down to being comfortable with yourself, comfortable in your own skin.

As for the big no no's, you've kind of already found a big one. Being shy and reserved. With or without money, being shy won't get you very far, with girls, with a career, with pretty much anything.

Look around the forum and see what we have that may help you at your point right now, and if you have any questions that we haven't covered, let us know.

Women dont want to sleep with guys for money. Sure they love getting things purchased for them. Its not going to get them to sleep with you. They arent hookers.

They like guys that have attitude and are going to push their limits. David DeAngelo often says that Girls say they want this Ideal Nice guy that is really sweet and takes care of her. Thats the type of guy she would like to marry. But, she never goes for that. She goes for the bad boy type.

If a girl has over and over again been cheated on by differant guys. Treated like crap. Maybe even provided for her men more than them for her. What type of guy do you think she is going to date next?

My conclusion is that its probably a guy who will cheat, treat her like crap, and needs to be provided for.

Hope that paints a decent picture for you.

I avoid even asking women what they want in a guy because it really doesnt matter what they want because its not what they are going to go after.

No offense man, but shy not so confident guys usually get walked all over and after women have their way with them they send them on their way.

The ladies need a challenge man. Are you up to it?

Right, you get them to qualify to you. You don't qualify to them.

thanx for your time lads!its not that im loaded and expected women to sleep with me for it,cos im far from it,i do alright and i work hard,i hav nice gear and nice car for me, to make me feel better about myself and hoping it would help my self esteem and confidence, i actually have no problem in relationships, ive ended everyone ive had and could probably get back with everyone of the girls if i wanted,ive cofidence when i hav the girl but not getting them,does that sound mad to you?ha it usually takes a long long time to get them when my mates are pullin left right and centre every week! i believe i giv off bad signals and my shyness doesnt help,im just looking to hav the right attitude and whatever else is needed to giv my mates a run for there money thats why ive turned to you boys!is there any hope for me?

Of course there's hope for you, lol.

And no, that doesn't sound mad, having a bit of confidence when you've got the girl, but having none when you don't have the girl. It's pretty normal until you get your mindset right.

Okay, let's remove the word hope from your vocabulary. Hope to me implies things in which we have a 0.000001 percent chance of changing the outcome. You don't need hope for this life situation. What you need is the willingness to take risks and comprehend that risks sometimes incur debt( not getting the leggy redhead with hazel eyes, although she was attracted but had a bf) and reward( getting that same leggy redhead with hazel eyes to swallow whatever you shot at her, even though her bf is good for her)

I understand the shy state of mind construct very well, I still am shy 45% of the time, but the 55% of the time is when I incur the greatest gains. Since you are shy, I suggest you start doing mental exercises that begin to affirm your confidence, and allow you to open up around the gals. By all means, welcome to the forum and ask away. peace,lvoe and succe Ss

wel lads! ive been working on your techniques for the last couple of weeks and i hav to say you guys know a thing or two about a thing or two!im off to a flyer,i know im just a beginner but i think i could be good at this,im jus looking for a little more advice,if you dont mind! i pulled a bird last week a real beaut and she invited me to a party tomorro,im going but im usually fairly shy when im around alot of people i dont know,i tend to be the one sitting in the backround nervously makeing the odd comment,im sick of that and really want to impress this girl,theres gonna be a couple of loud characters and id love to steal the show,my confidence has improved and im feeling up for it! have you any info that might help at such short notice,what would you guys do? cheers!

OK, so basically you're asking how to magically go from the guy sitting in the background and could vanish at any moment and no one would notice . . . to the guy stealing the show from the alphas . . . overnight? lol, sorry man, ain't gonna happen.

The best thing for YOU to do is to build rapport, attraction, and comfort with the girl that INVITED you, and pick maybe one other girl to talk to as well, as a friend and game the target that way. Don't overload yourself on what you want to accomplish before you're ready man.

ok point taken! thanx man

Tripp, you gave him some wonderful advice, but you missed this one nugget. He wants to impress the girl, instead of the girl impressing him. Follow me into the 'REFRAME ROOM' homie. I understand that she indeed maybe a lovely gal, but beauty doesn't constitute that you shall become only her entertainment and laughter.

I think you have the intent to sleep with this girl and that's what you need. In this potential scenario, you want to appear as if you already are the life of the party and this is where inner game/self confidence is your best friend. The feeling you want to display is that you have a party to attend on mars and mingle amongst stars- credit lil wayne.

How do we do that? You start becoming geniunely interested in the people who will be at the party, and stay away from antiseptic conversation. What you want to give everyone at the party is value. Don't become so overtly concerned with what magical bullets you can say that will instantly create an avanlanche of attraction inside this girl. Think of attraction as a radio tuner. Start somewhere in the middle and as the interaction increases, you should be increasing kino, banter, and more towards topics you want to steer the girl in. Peace,lvoe and succe Ss

Thank you for pointing that out Fortunehooks.

Tripp, you already know the only reason I mentioned it. Because I know you have a wealth of knowledge that this guy needs on 'how to not hop on one leg and pee at the same time, trying to impress this girl. I did my best, but I think he needs some more nuggets from you. peace,lvoe, succe Ss

Fortunehooks1 wrote:

Tripp, you already know the only reason I mentioned it. Because I know you have a wealth of knowledge that this guy needs on 'how to not hop on one leg and pee at the same time, trying to impress this girl. I did my best, but I think he needs some more nuggets from you. peace,lvoe, succe Ss

I know bro. Obviously I appreciate your help. I want to see how this turns out.

well guys it went quite well for me,i did as you said tripp and got a result,i didnt set my sites to high and i stuck to the girl and her best mate who was quite cool,i just acted as confident as i could and the cocky funny seems to work well for me,i hav to say though when the girls had to go somewhere for whatever reason i felt quite vunerable,this is the shyness again!i just have one question for fortunehooks,firstly thanks for all the posts man!youve been a great help! i was just thinking about when you said you where shy person but you could push the shyness aside whenever you needed! i would love to be able to do this, could you recommend any techniques or books for me because theres so much stuff out there promiseing miracles and im sure alot of its rubbish,i was thinking about hypnosis aswell,what do you think?

DeeBee, I am so glad that you let this young lady get a glimpse at the great guy that you are, and you also did a good job at creating a cheerleader in the friend of hers, well done. Yes, on these said boards, I have typed that I am shy 45% of time, but I am 55% more socially adept. In my view this is the correct mathematical configuration that I prescribe to.

Here's one technique that I learned from Hypnotica in terms of increasing one's self confidence and decreasing limiting self beliefs. Write down ten " I am" sentences. An example is, I am spectacular. I am an irresistible babe magnet. I am a worthy human being. These ten sentences are your self affirmations that you need to read and repeat to yourself that they will become apart of your subconscious mind and reap more fulfilling conscious actions and sentiments. Here are the names of two guys not on this forum in terms of membership that I endorse, Carlos Xuma and Hypnotica. Sign up for the newsletters of Carlos and visit Hypnotica's websites. Meditation is one of the ways that I keep myself fluid in life. I personally like meditate in the wee hours of night before I go to sleep in hopes of creating the best forthcoming day possible. A positive outlook is required.

Another nugget you can use is make sure that you are attempting to make yourself better for you, and that in term will force everyone around you to either climb on board or be left at the shore. peace,lvoe and succe Ss

Another note DeeBee, we do have material by Hypnotica in the Vault.

DeeBee wrote:

hey everyone,hope yous dont mind a paddy on the forum,im very new to this and im lookin for a bit of advice,i found out about this through jsmooth and he reckoned you guys could help me,heres my problem,im a good looking bloke and pretty flash,style and sportscar and all that but im a real nice guy and some off my friends who dont hav what i hav tend to get more attention by the way they act,im kind of shy and not that confident,im not really looking to become a pick up master as such just to round myself off a bit better,could you help me with the basics and the big no no"s! thanks lads

Stop being nice, nobody cared what you have AT FIRST!! All ur stuff plays in later, but in initial attraction and comfort, that shit goes out the window.. BE FUCKIN COCKU! act liek you ahve a 20 inch dick... act like you can get ay girl. Im average looking, im also 18 years old and obviously cant afford a sports car, this and that, im in an IV league college, so my future looks good, but until i graduate and become a surgeon, i won't jhave those thigns.. but i get a lot of girls.. my count is pretty high and for 1 reason, i have a good vibe, FUCK ROUTIES and stuff, have a good playful vibe!