Winning her over with Brutal Honesty

If you have to resort to lies and trickery to land a woman... it
doesn't make you a "pimp"... it makes you a LIAR.

And guess what, she's gonna find out at some point anyway. Look, I
believe in karma... but not the way that some people do. I think that
if you do someone wrong on purpose, you'll subconsciously do
something to harm yourself in some way.

You don't really think about it that much, but you know you've done
something wrong... and it trickles down into your life.

Only the most heartless person would be able to prevent this from
happening... but I haven't met that person yet.

Instead of lies and trickery... I advise you to go to the other end
of the spectrum... straight up, deathly brutal honesty.

Why, you may ask...

... because know one else is doing it!

Seems strange right.

I have to confess... most women don't really believe anything that
comes out of your mouth at the beginning anyway. So... that being the
case... you might as well shoot straight.

Here's a lesson I got from my Dad at a young age... he told me:

"Son, don't ever lie... (Why, I said) ... because it's too much
d*mn work trying to keep up with what you've said"

Sage advice.

If a woman catches you in a lie... no matter how small... you lose...
especially in the beginning.

As an aside... if you are going to lie... make it an obvious lie.
An example would be talking about how "small" your "soldier" is.
This is funny as hell to say and it's even funnier to everyone else.

Also, I actually had a woman call me out one time when she said,
"Every guy I've ever met that's said that... has been absolutely
huge!" Hmmm, what other types of OBVIOUS lies can you think of that
can work in this way?

(more on using "Obvious Lies" tomorrow)

Back to brutal honesty...

If you have a reputation for brutal honesty... you gain instant
respect. With instant respect... you have less flaky behavior.
Plus, the woman will typically be on her best behavior when you
are around because they KNOW that you'll point out less than
desirable situations.

Call things like you see them and the women will respect you.
You'll also generate intrigue and mystery... because everyone is
going to want to know why you are SO CONFIDENT that you can afford
to shoot everyone as straight as an arrow.

Brutal honesty DOES NOT mean that you have to be an a*shole, though!

Actually, it works much better if you aren't.

Here are some situations where brutal honesty as necessary:

1. When a woman asks you if you are only in it for the sex. If
you are, tell her that you are. If she gets upset, ask her if
she's ever met anyone that has ever told her that. Most of the
time, your situation won't change (especially if you're GOOD)
and you don't have to continue to "reassure" her that you
aren't. Save yourself the trouble.
2. When she asks you if you're having sex with other people. If
you are, either tell her you are... or tell her to just assume
that you are... if you don't want to go into details. Don't lie.
There's no need. She most likely is still going to go through
with everything... and now she doesn't have to "think" about it
any longer. Great move.
3. When she asks what you do. Either tell her or divert the
question. You ARE HAPPY with what you do, right? If not, get
a new job

The key here is to tell the truth... and use it to qualify HER. Don't
let her qualify YOU.

For instance, if she asks you what you do... and you are a computer
programmer... come up with an "elevator" pitch about what you do and
then FLIP the script with a qualifying question of your own.

An example:

Her: So, what do you do?

You: Wow, I expected a little better from you... anyway, I help create
products that mass market manufacturers use to increase productivity.
In my line of work, I always have to be on my toes... things are
spontaneous and creative. With that being said, I tend to find
myself around people that are spontaneous and fun... you ARE
spontaneous and fun, aren't you?

And you've flipped it around on her... this one isn't perfect... but
you get the idea.

Here's another way to approach using the OBVIOUS LIE...

Her: So, what do you do?

You: Are you serious? I thought you would do better than that...
maybe I was wrong (with a sly smile). If you must know, I work
in the mail division of Blah Blah company. I'm the official
stamp licker. The job leaves me pretty tired at the end of the
day with all that licking going on but I guess a man's gotta
do what a man's gotta do, right?

Her: Come on, be serious.

You: I am... what would you think I'd do?

(Oh, that reminds me of rapport building, I'll write about that
soon. On a quick note, always try to answer a question with a
question... preferably an EMOTIONAL question. More later.)

Finally, do you want to know a "black hat" reason for brutal
honesty?

If you have a reputation and history of brutal honesty... if you ever
have to lie... you'll never be questioned about it. And, if you want...
you can use this to manipulate people to no end.

I'll show you how to do this as well... although I really only use it
when I feel like people are trying to "game" me

Tomorrow, we'll go over the "obvious" lies a little more...