Interesting scenario developing for New Years...

Ok, so I got a few invitations to parties for New Years, but one pretty much struck home with me. I'm not very close to most of the people who are going to be there, but there's going to be a certain girl whom I'm interested in (let's call her Jane).

The background: I met Jane three years ago, and I was a total AFC. The girl is an HB9, and I was head over heels in lust with her, but I couldn't even gather the guts to speak with her. She kind of fell out of my circle of friends, until one year later, when I found myself a girlfriend who turned out to be a friend of Jane (at which point, of course, I wasn't much interested anymore since I was already taken). At the end of that year, I went on a one-week retreat holiday with my girlfriend and several friends - including Jane. Given the nature of the retreat, I was able to pull off some huge DHVs DAILY, and - to my surprise - Jane started giving me some pretty explicit IOIs (constant eye contact, opening conversations with me without my approaching, asking my opinion about things I had no relation with, going kino when talking to me, giving me huge compliments for the dumbest things, etc.). I didn't do anything of course because I wouldn't have cheated on my girlfriend, but it did get me thinking - she seemed to walk away from that holiday with a gigantic opinion of me. As the year ended she left for Australia. On two occasions I sent her a pretty lengthy email through facebook (this is something I do with many people, it wasn't just because she's an HB9), and on both occasions she replied with even lengthier texts. One of them was even recent.

Now, fifteen months since I last saw her, she is going to this party to which I'm invited. She is single (she even recently claimed to me that she "keeps having shit luck with the opposite sex"), and up here in England only for a short time. I'm thinking of going there and gaming - the revenge of the AFC! Some time ago, I wouldn't even have hoped for it, because even if she was attracted to me, I wouldn't have known what to do. But now I've got some game.

So I'm thinking of going to this party, and I'm wondering if any of you guys have any suggestions. Openers aren't really necessary since we both know each other and everyone else. I'm thinking of going there and doing my best to socialise with all the present while giving little attention to Jane (not as easy as it sounds - as I said, I'm not hugely close to most of the people present), at least for the first part of the evening. I'll be going kino with her (and everyone) from the very start. I'm going to try and isolate her at some later stage - any tips on how to do this? And should I take her out of the room so we're out of sight of her friends, or is just a corner of the room enough?

From there, well, it'll be time for the kiss-close - hopefully I'll have enough attraction already established, since that's hardly the best part of my game. But we'll see.

I'm also thinking negs are mostly unnecessary, since we're already starting off from a default status anyway and I don't need to lower her value. Plus, in the context of a "first time we've met in years" scenario, I don't want to risk coming across as an asshole. There's going to be push-pull alternation of course, but very little negging. And yeah, obviously I'll have to keep my drinking under control.

Any further suggestions as to how I should behave?

Firstly, drop the (I'm not that close with everyone at the party limiting belief) here's why. This is a fallback that you don't need to have as your parachute, if things with Jane don't go your planned way. Reframe, the entire situation, when I enter this party, even those who may have had a differing opinion of me, will be cheering me on to have songs about Jane being written about this occasion.
That's the mindset you have to have to achieve your destined goal. Another thing, Jane and yourself aren't strangers. Don't ignore the chick my friend, when you see her, go over give her a great big hug. Make sure at this moment, your chit chat is designed in away to spark curiousity within her about you. Once, you drop the hook, then you have the option of sticking around or rolling off. I would prefer you become interested in something else at this moment, or another girl. Here's why, because you have dropped the hook, you want to test hook strength. What is hook strength? A hook is failsafe, strong, sturdy, erode damaged, and downright unhookable. If you have dropped a hook, and you are in the process of becoming interested in something, or slightly turning your head in another direction. Within that first second, she's reengaging the conversation by continuing with that thread or creating a new thread of her own. Also, she's using a version of kino, by touching your shoulder, chest, grabbing for your hand. That's when you know you have dropped a failsafe hook.
For length purposes, I won't define the other remaining hooks, check my journal for those definitions to be published in its entirety, soon.

I'm thinking, you could get more than a Kiss close, but logistics comes into play more so than game at that point. Also, since her friends will be there, you can get them involved into the interaction by just invoking," Mystery's question, How do you all know each other? With a slight variation, since you may have asked them this before, by adding the phrase( because I can't recall) From there, you can choose whatever direction you want to take this Jane's addiction. peace,lvoe and succe SS

I agree, definitely don't ignore her. You and her have a history and she's happy to be with or around you, so that's an advantage already.

As Fortune said, hook her immediately. I have a feeling things could escalate quickly between you two, and if they do, roll with it. A beginning make out . . . kissing etc., will be fine in a corner, but any further, take her to a more isolated place.

If, for some reason, her attention is grabbed by some others at the party, after you have hooked her, assume the convo also includes you and lead it . . . back to you and her.

Absolutely awesome advice. Thanks guys. Just one question:

Fortunehooks1 wrote:

Make sure at this moment, your chit chat is designed in away to spark curiousity within her about you.

Gotcha. If any of you guys want to elaborate on how you personally would go about "sparking curiosity" though, it would all be welcome.

When you're passionate about your life, or at least about something in your life, and you speak about that subject with the passion you have, that right there helps to spark curiosity about you.