Guy likes girl/girl likes boy, but having a hard time closing

I'm very new to this, so bear with me. I don't normally have an issue meeting women. I've been with a lot of women over my life, but started chillin out a little over the past couple of years.

I met this girl at a wedding (she's 12 years younger than me). She was attractive, by herself and we started talking. There was alcohol and flirting and we started making out after most people left. A few friends had come over and she had mentioned to them she was seeing a guy for the past 4 months exclusively. I took her home, we continued to make out and she made it clear we weren't having sex.

I saw her the next couple of nights (her "boy" was out of the country on business) and we did a lot of things, but she absolutely wouldn't let me have sex with her. I found out later that she had intended to have sex on one of the nights, but she somehow managed to "control herself". We've texted and IMed and we've spoken once on the phone since.

I told her I was taking her out on Thursday and she said she couldn't make it. I told her that I wasn't taking no for an answer, so we went out and had dinner. She told me she her boy was back and they had sex over the weekend. I told her I hooked up with someone too over the weekend in Vegas. We ate, drank, made out again and then she went home.

I'm into this girl and while I can have sex with someone else, I'd really like to hook up with this one and see where it goes. She doesn't always respond to my texts and never calls me. She also lives 40 minutes away, so I can't exactly go out with her all the time. What do I do to close the deal?? I want to take her away for a weekend, but I have a feeling she's going to be pretty resistive. She likes that I'm pushy, but I'm wondering if this is acting against me. Suggestions??

Welcome to the forum johnjoejack.

Why not hook up with someone who's available instead of spending all this energy on a girl that has no intention of changing her relationship and is toying with you? This lowers your value to other girls as well.

johnjoejack wrote:

She likes that I'm pushy, but I'm wondering if this is acting against me. Suggestions??

She likes it becaus you give her attention. Just like a cat who comes sitting on your lap.
However, it does not build attraction to her.

I agree with Tripp.
She's playing around. Bad girl.

There's plenty of fish in the sea.

Welcome to the forum

V

I disagree as far as you not being able to hook up. I think you could.
The fact that she mentioned she wasn't having sex with you meant 1) She
was thinking about having sex. And 2) She wanted to take the pressure
off of herself by saying she wasn't having sex but was looking for the
perfect "excuse". Afterward she would have said "It just happened." or
some other rationalization.

Listen to her body and never to her mouth. You only listen to her mouth if it matches what her body is saying.

Her: We can make out but we're not having sex.
You: I know. We really shouldn't.

Make out some more. Then while you're making out, you can start grinding against her.

You: I'm really trying to control myself here.

Keep your clothes on. Keep doing things to turn her on. make out and do
some heavy petting for a good hour or so, if necessary. To get her
turned on. Then she'll be too turned on to resist. All decisions are
state dependent. Get her in the right state and she'll do the rest and
then rationalize it AFTER the fact.