Mastering Body Language by Evolve

AVOIDING BAR PITFALLS
by Evolve
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There are a number of traps that are easy to fall into when
dealing with proper body language. For example, you should
never be afraid of, or hide from, your size. Here's what I
mean: The space around you is YOUR space. Do not slouch
over...instead stand up tall and own the space above you. Do
not cram your body into a small space. Instead, so long as
you are not being rude, you should make yourself as
comfortable as possible and take up as much room as you
need to do so. When sitting on a couch you should feel free
to stretch your legs out, spread your arms out wide, and do
whatever else you'd like to get relaxed and at ease.

When out at a bar or a club, loud music and lots of
beverages enter the equation. This introduces a couple of
new challenges and common mistakes that guys typically
make. Stylelife Senior Coach, Evolve, was faced with these
challenges long ago...and has successfully taught countless
students how to make simple adjustments that will
sky-rocket your success with women in bars, like it has for
him.

Without further ado, here is Evolve, with a great tutorial
for mastering body language called, Avoiding Bar Pitfalls:

There are two pieces of information that I was given about
body language when I started learning the game that
dramatically improved my results. These two very small
changes really opened my eyes and showed me how important
good body language is to attracting women:

1. Avoid Leaning In
2. Hold Your Drink Correctly

I was shocked to see just how much these two small tweaks
to my game changed the way women spoke to me in bars...
these changes brought women physically closer to me, while
at the same time helping me to look like the cool guy in the bar.

1. Avoid Leaning In (Pecking)

Imagine yourself at a bar watching a group of people. The
group consists of one guy and three women. You notice that
every time one of the women speaks this guy leans in,
"pecking" his head forward, trying to hear what each one of
them is saying.

Now, turn your head and imagine looking at another group,
this group is similar; one guy and three women. Except in
this group, you notice, the girls are all leaning in to
speak to the one guy. This guy stands tall with his head
up, back to the bar, and lets the women get close to him
while they speak.

Which guy looks higher value?

It's not the guy in the first group. He looks like he's
TRYING to hold their attention but failing. By leaning in
he appears reaction-seeking. Not cool. Don't be this guy.
Instead, you want to be like the guy in the second group.
Why? Because he has all the women seeking HIS attention.

Most guys lean in because they can't hear a girl speak in a
loud environment like a club or bar, and they want the
women they're speaking with to know that they're interested in
them.

Don't lean in...

If she doesn't speak loud enough say, "I can't hear you."
Then, motion for her to come towards you while she talks.
Nine times out of ten she'll lean in or move closer so that
you can hear her.

Next time you go out to a bar, pay attention to how many
guys are "pecking" their head in to hear what a girl says,
then be the exception that women want by standing tall and
using good body language to have the women lean in to you.

2. Hold Your Drink Correctly

How you hold your drink is also very important when
speaking with women. Whenever you have a drink in your
hand, do not hold it in front of you; instead, hold it to
the side, and, keep your arm in a comfortable position with
your drink low (approximately at waste level).

One common question our students ask us when they're
learning everything about body language is, "What happens
when you hold your drink in front of you?" Here's the deal:
When you hold your drink in front of you, you create a
barrier between you and the super-sexy woman you just met.
Ask yourself, what would you rather have pressing up against
your chest...the cold glass cup containing your beverage, or
the warm body of the loveliest woman in the room?

These two very simple body language changes will have girls
so close to you, that you can feel them breathing on your
neck.

Great Post! I love this short article, it makes a big difference when you correct these items in your body language. Its fun watching girls lean in to me like I have some special secret to tell them.