Okay sometimes it take a real hard look at yourself to realize you might be doing these things. They directly relate to your inner game and your frame. We've been doing some of these things for a long time and haven't considered them a problem. When I was listening to David DeAngelo's Advanced Audio series I wanted to share with you guys what I found. Please don't be offended by anything here, just recognize you do it, and adjust. If you need help adjusting that's what L.A. Tripp is here for.
Are you a Wussie?!? Look below at the different types of Wussies. Remember the Wussie tries to be sweet, nice, accomidating, and approval seeking type of person. I'm sure if you aren't one you know this person well.
The Victim - The tend not to take personal responsibility for their actions. They dramatize things in their life to get attention. This can easily slip out on a bad day when you don't control your emotions. Let's say someone keyed your car, and you go out and start bitching. You secretly don't control your emotions, and the people you know realize it.
The Nice Guy- Believes he should go out of his way to be sweet nice and understanding no matter what the circumstances. The part about regardless of the circumstances is the key aspect to this. They don't draw boundaries and stand up for themselves very often. They typically harbor in the inner belief that they are better than others because they are so nice. Remember, when you are being nice to get something back you are being manipulative!
The "Yes, but she's different wussie."- Many long term relationships are screwed up because of this. The don't be a wussie mindset is dropped and then she leaves shortly afterwards. When you talk to these guys, you get the you're probably right, but get off my case shoulder shrug. Typically, there is a comment about how this one is special.
The "I want her to like me for me wussie"- Many guys argue tooth and nail about the techniques we use in this community. They don't feel they need to do anything differently. The "I want her to like me for me wussie," has an idealistic fantasy about a woman falling for who they are without them doing anything different. These guys typically go months and months without dates.
The "there's this one special girl wussie"- Also known as "one itis". You see these pop up on the forum a lot under the newbie posts or sticking points. To quote David D. ~ "If there is one question that I get so often that I could have a phaser stun gun to use on guys who ask it, it's this question. "
There's this one special girl, I got to have her, how do I get her" question...The only thing this obsession says about you is you are a world class wussbag!" It's cool that you really like a girl, just don't get obsessed with her, and explore your other opportunities.
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When you let your inner wussbag out to roam freely, only bad things will happen!" Thanks to David DeAngelo for helping us recognize our inner wussie!