Boner on the dance floor

i need a female opinion here. tonite i was dancing with this chick who is a REALLY good dancer, and she was workin it all up against me, grinding and all. I started getting a boner, i couldnt help it. Shortly after, she said she had to dance with her friends. im thinkin it freaked her out. do women freak out if they can feel ur wood while dancing with you? lol i couldnt help it, she was REALLY good. any tips on how to avoid this?

Some women are turned on by it. They know what there doing and it makes them feel happy when guy does get a boner because all that work paided off. That is just some and the others ehhh can't tell you.

Ah, see some women like to entice a guy on the dance floor in such a manner because it does make her feel sexy to turn a guy on like this. Then again, some women get "creeped out" by this because it makes her think the guy is trying to get fresh with her already. So be careful when this happens. Honestly, if she does that good grinding on you while dancing to make "jr." happy, then she has a means of why. As far as any tips, well you just have to train your thought process to train your "other" head to not get so excited.

I remember one year ago I was grinding with this girl on the dancefloor. She told me afterwards that she loved that because it showed I was sexually attracted to her. I've been with the girl afterwards.

I love grinding on guys on the dancefloor. When I know that I am turning them on, I know I have succeeded in my task for the night!!!

I really know I have succeeded in my task for my goals when he is at my place and eating breakfast with me the next morning....

aww.. paramour

Ok, I guess I'm totally opposite here. If I'm grinding on a guy it's mearly for fun and I would probably start looking for another spot to move to once I felt "OH, HELLO!"
Now, this is a different story with my husband. If I'm grinding on him and I feel "Mr. Hello" waking up, I start getting turned on, but then again . . . I know I'm going home with him. LOL!
~Cali

Honestly how the hell would u even control that its not your fault the girls grinding up on ur stuff.... :-\ ive never seen this as a problem before

PUA to be wrote:

Honestly how the hell would u even control that its not your fault the girls grinding up on ur stuff.... :-\ ive never seen this as a problem before

Well, from my own experience, the more I have girls grind on me, the more I DON'T get boners from it. In fact, I've had recent pick ups like army wife complain that "Mr. Hello" didn't show up. She did notice, though, that even though he didn't show up, there was still something there to be definitely noticed as she was grinding, which just made her wonder even more about my size . . .

Honestly, it's like a Thong Thursday contest we have at one of our clubs here too. Once you see the stuff, or feel the grinding, it's the same thing over and over, so it's not so much a turn on.

Hell, this past saturday when I had three different girls from the same group grinding the hell out of me, and one of them had the body of a 9.5, and I still didn't get up. It's not that I can't get turned on though . . . the girl just has to be more . . . seductive

Actually, it has a lot to do with your own mental focus too.

I dont know trip i think it would be mental. I was at a party and i was switching off from girl to girl every 10 mins id change my girl and one of them got me up the other actually brought it down they were both equally good looking and both were doing pretty much the same grinding how would u explain this? i wasnt really sure what was going on.

Yep, really it is a lot to do with your mental focus. Men are turned on visually for the most part, which means your imagination can turn you on OR off, so it is truly a lot to do with your mental focus.

But, we should get a girls input on this too . . .

I agree, men to tend to look more at the physical side of women more. To keep Mr. Happy from smiling, you must put on a fake smile so that no one can tell what is really going on. In other words, it is your mindset. Look, 9 times out 10, guys and girls are going to clubs to see what they can catch for the night anyway. Well, for tha most part. No pun, but a guy's mentality is superficial with women. Naturally, guys get turned on by seeing a girl almost half naked at a club. It's natural and yes women do it too.

If you focus on something passed the female phisique and/or what youre looking for then you can do a role reversal with Mr. Happy. I have seen guys discipline themselves from getting boners when approached by a woman or whatever the scenario be.Some guys go out to certain places with the notion that they are going to get laid...throw your selfish thoughts away...it should work for the most part. Unless you're like that dude on American Pie.

this chick could DANCE...

DTM wrote:

this chick could DANCE...

Im not saying it will work all the time as to altering your mindset. But it does help!!!

Paramour wrote:

DTM wrote:

this chick could DANCE...

Im not saying it will work all the time as to altering your mindset. But it does help!!!

DTM, so can my wife, Army Wife, the chick I made out with the night me and Army Wife broke up, and a few other girls I've been with. They could EACH dance so well that the pair of us literally got the others in the club hot and bothered.

It's still in your own mindset man.

I mean, I've had girls visibly hot and bothered by just watching me and these girls dance. But the hardest thing these girls ever felt while dancing with me was my cell phone. Not the biggest thing they felt . . . but the hardest. In fact, some of them even went to groping me just TO get me hard. LOL, Army Wife even asked me, more than once, point blank "what would it take to get you hard." I love that question . . .

Girls, hi-jacking done. Sorry.

i agree with trip.. i mean, when i was an AFC, i used to watch PORN A LOT!! and it kinda desensitized me to a lot of stuff, so when i started PUA.. i stopped watching porn to resensitize me to stuff. So if trip is used to girls grinding on him, to him, its "no big deal." and totally normal.. just like drinking a glass of water. It could be different with his wife because there most likely is an emotional attraction...

Now, LA.. Cali.. i need both of your advice.. this girl i am gaming loves me, and i like her.. a lot.. but she found out i was in the seduction community cuz her best friend is a nosy bitch!! Anyways.. she is totally pissed at me and thinks im a "player." I tried to explain PUA isnt about being a player and getting laid, its about improving yourslef and she didn't believe me. SO now, i've got to do damage control. How do you react Cali, and what should i do.. should i eject and find somoene knew. I don't wanna do damage control over this.. and im considering ejecting.

RussianStar wrote:

Now, LA.. Cali.. i need both of your advice.. this girl i am gaming loves me, and i like her.. a lot.. but she found out i was in the seduction community cuz her best friend is a nosy bitch!! Anyways.. she is totally pissed at me and thinks im a "player." I tried to explain PUA isnt about being a player and getting laid, its about improving yourslef and she didn't believe me. SO now, i've got to do damage control. How do you react Cali, and what should i do.. should i eject and find somoene knew. I don't wanna do damage control over this.. and im considering ejecting.

OK, you say you like her a lot . . . but are considering ejecting? Damage control, to an extent, is life. Just not major damage control. As far as her finding out you're in the seduction community, you actually shouldn't keep that fact from someone that you are continuing to see anyway. It's best to be honest with them asap. For instance, a girl I'm seeing calls me a player, but she doesn't hold it against me either. There's nothing wrong with seeing different girls. Especially when you're not exclusive with one. And, there's nothing wrong with wanting to get laid because you have a high sex drive. The girls want to get laid too.

So, again, which is it? Do you like her a lot . . . or do you want to get rid of her?

i like her a lot.. but she might have a low image of me after hearing that

She MIGHT have . . . but do you know for sure?

almost certain

lol so she could be reading all ur posts right now. even reading this very topic

RussianStar wrote:

almost certain

This is the problem. You're assuming WITHOUT knowing. Now, if you were assuming ATTRACTION it would be a good thing, but assuming something like this is NOT good.

And DTM, good point, but so everyone now knows, guests can no longer read all of the forum outside of the Vault. The only thing guests can actually read now is the "Get Acquainted" area. You now have to register to actually see the rest of the forum. However, you still can't get into the Vault just by registering, lol. Different levels of security

which is why on my next paycheck i wanna get into tripps vault!!!

RussianStar wrote:

i agree with trip.. i mean, when i was an AFC, i used to watch PORN A LOT!! and it kinda desensitized me to a lot of stuff, so when i started PUA.. i stopped watching porn to resensitize me to stuff. So if trip is used to girls grinding on him, to him, its "no big deal." and totally normal.. just like drinking a glass of water. It could be different with his wife because there most likely is an emotional attraction...

Now, LA.. Cali.. i need both of your advice.. this girl i am gaming loves me, and i like her.. a lot.. but she found out i was in the seduction community cuz her best friend is a nosy bitch!! Anyways.. she is totally pissed at me and thinks im a "player." I tried to explain PUA isnt about being a player and getting laid, its about improving yourslef and she didn't believe me. SO now, i've got to do damage control. How do you react Cali, and what should i do.. should i eject and find somoene knew. I don't wanna do damage control over this.. and im considering ejecting.

Sorry I haven't been on here to reply to your question, Russian. My internet on my computer has been messing up. As far as what I think being a female, there are certain aspects I don't like about PUA . . . but then again . . . it's probably because I'm married. It doesn't matter what kind of relationship you have as long as you are honest with each other and have a complete understanding of what's going on . . . communication!
So if this girl really likes you and wants to be with you . . . just talk out the situation . . . what's going on and what's gonna happen. Take her out into the field and show her what PUA is really about!

RussianStar wrote:

i like her a lot.. but she might have a low image of me after hearing that

Have you tried making her realize that you knowing this stuff will improve your relationship? Unlike the other guys shes dated, you may actually have a clue about whats going on.