Too Deep Too Fast

Guys, when you are approaching, opening, and running sets, please, for the sake of your self and the sake of the set, don't be trying to get into deep conversations right off the bat. Not even within the first few minutes.

You need to keep things light and moving along. Remember, you are the PARTY, not the professor.

You do need to engage her emotions, and take her on a ride, but you can do that w/o getting into deep discussions before it's warranted. She has to earn that level of commitment from you. Don't give yourself up to early. She'll see your easy . . . and that's not attractive to a woman.

L.A. Tripp wrote:

Guys, when you are approaching, opening, and running sets, please, for the sake of your self and the sake of the set, don't be trying to get into deep conversations right off the bat. Not even within the first few minutes.

You need to keep things light and moving along. Remember, you are the PARTY, not the professor.

You do need to engage her emotions, and take her on a ride, but you can do that w/o getting into deep discussions before it's warranted. She has to earn that level of commitment from you. Don't give yourself up to early. She'll see your easy . . . and that's not attractive to a woman.

Thank you for pointing this out. I see a lot of guys doing this, and I guess its those AFC tendencies that cause us to. We want her to know something deep and personal about us so that she becomes attached. The truth is when you keep the personal stuff out of it and make yourself more of a mystery for the first interaction the results are better later. If you give all your good stories the first night you meet, then what are you going to talk about on your second or third date to further comfort building? Like L.A. Tripp says it's just not atttractive to a woman either.

Yeah, my former afc self did this alot back when I started, didnt realize what I was doing..

I often asked too many questions and tried over analyzing the girl and her life.

Wow, this is painstakingly the case for many, self included. This is not the most attractive stuff that will appeal to those attractive switches that she's wired for. I think the fifth attractive switch is curiousity.

Fortunehooks1 wrote:

I think the fifth attractive switch is curiousity.

LOL, well . . . if we want to get technical the 5th would be guts/balls, something along those lines. Of course, that's tied into the previous 4, and curiousity and mystery would also be floating around in there too. It's true, you don't want or need to give up too much of yourself too quick.

There has to be something more to you, more depth, for the girl to find out later. And I don't just mean on the 2nd day, lol. And FYI, Fortune, bro, that comment wasn't directed at you, lol.

Tripp you are so correct about that my man. All of the attraction switches rely on each other to really force a high volted charge of attraction. I decided to include the potential fifth being curiousity because, it really is "the nail in the coffin" so to speak. With hitting all the previous four switches, and implementing undeniable cloaked mystique you can secure girls instantly. Tripp, my dude, I never harbored any inkling that those comments were directed to me in anyway. In addition, I thank you for posting that, and not letting someone else unintentionally misinterpret what you typed. Peace,love and success.