Open Sets Fearlessly

Open Sets Fearlessly

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THIS WEEK'S WEEKEND WINGMAN
Open Sets Fearlessly
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Hey,

In last week's Weekend Wingman you read the story that detailed
how I got robbed, but was able to use the social skills I've
learned at the Stylelife Academy to land on my feet. The story
ended up with me getting on a plane to head to Las Vegas.

Well, as it turns out, the airline messed up a bit, and it took
longer than expected to finally get to Vegas - but on a side
note, I was able to use my Stylelife skills to grab a first
class upgrade worth $750 - which definitely made me feel better.
After I handled the series of unexpected issues you read about
in last week's Wingman, I was definitely looking forward to
getting on with my trip. Once I landed in Vegas, my life took a
sharp turn in the direction of fun. As most people know, Las
Vegas is a nonstop frenzy of parties and good times. If you
haven't been there, I highly recommend it, just for the
experience...even if you're not a gambler.

As I walked through the terminal after getting off the plane, I
spotted a group of interesting looking girls around my age. They
hadn't yet even left the airport, yet they were all laughing and
having a good time. It was perfect...they were the exact kind of
people I wanted to be hanging out with on this trip. I decided
to use the skills I've mastered to meet new people, and MAKE
this trip as fun and exciting as possible.

As I approached, I reminded myself, "They too are on vacation,
looking to meet people and have a great time".

Sure enough, I opened that set with no problem. We had a great
conversation, exchanged contacts, and it turned out we were even
staying in the same hotel. This was a beautiful start to a
beautiful trip. It was the first of many successful approaches.

There were cool, fun people absolutely everywhere, and whenever
I saw them I would think "They too are on vacation, looking to
meet people and have a great time", and every set blew open with
ease.

I recall one particular interaction outside of the LAX Nightclub
at the Luxor hotel where I was having a ton of fun. Granted, it
is easy to have a good time when a beautiful blond with a killer
smile, long legs, and fishnet stockings is busy laughing at all
your jokes. She had a great sense of humor and we were into all
the same comedians. Her wit was a fantastic match for mine, so
while it was great teasing each other back and forth...I wanted
to find out more about her. What was her name? What did she do
for a living?

Now remember guys, we had been talking for a while now and had
already developed a mutual respect and attraction for each
other, so this was the right time to start asking these types of
things. Just keep in mind that you don't want to ask these types
of questions in the very beginning of an interaction BEFORE she
is attracted.

I asked her why she was visiting Vegas, and she told me that she
wasn't visiting, she lived there. I remembered the words I spoke
to myself before I approached: "She is on vacation, looking to
meet people and have a great time". I chuckled silently, I had
been wrong. She wasn't on vacation at all.

Then, "it" suddenly clicked.

In Washington DC I told myself everyone was opening so well
because they were good people who wanted to help me while I was
in distress. Now, in Vegas, I was confidently claiming to myself
that each set was opening so well because they were on vacation
and wanted to meet new people. I was coming up with specific
reasons in each place and time for the sets to be opening...but
they were unnecessary justifications. All I really needed was
one universal reason:

"I am a cool, fun, interesting guy, who any sensible minded
person would love to spend time with."

Since I was making up all these other specific reasons in my
head that the groups would be receptive to my approach, I was in
some way implying to myself they wouldn't be receptive without
them. However, this wasn't true at all. There I was, having a
great conversation with a stunning and interesting woman...and
it had nothing to do with her being on vacation.

Have you ever thought about approaching and then assumed the
woman wouldn't like to talk to you. Why? She should remain
innocent of being called unreceptive until proven guilty. This
is the secret I referenced earlier:

Assume she DOES want to talk to you...always.

Is this going to work EVERY time in EVERY situation you face?
No, the reality is that sometimes the person you approach may
not be totally receptive. Maybe something is happening in their
lives at the moment that has them in a really bad mood, or
perhaps they are just too busy to talk right now. Regardless,
this shouldn't change your attitude when opening the next group.

Don't ever decide for them that they don't want to talk to you.
This is criminal. Never ask yourself if they will be receptive
to your approach. There is no reason for it. Assume them will,
and if you are wrong let them be the ones to tell you otherwise,
but until they do...it's on.



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Last Week's Contest, Updates.
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Last week I issued a special challenge to all of you. The
challenge was to seek the help of a total stranger by using an
honest opener that simply asks for them to assist you. We've
already received great entries, which are in the running for the
prize of Style's Red-Book, an amazing e-book that breaks down
the science behind the skills taught at the Stylelife Academy.

When you are approaching keep in mind the lessons covered this
week...

"You are a cool, fun, interesting guy, who any sensible minded
person would love to spend time with." Assume EVERYONE is going
to be receptive and pleasant until they prove otherwise. Taking
any other mentality is only going to work against you.

Also, to help you get the most personal gain out of this
contest, here are answers to a few of the common questions we've
received over the past week:


Q: What is intention here? Am I supposed to try to escalate on
the girl I open, or just get her help?

A: The intention isn't to do anything sexual at all. The mission
is exactly what it says it is, you are supposed to get them to
help you with a task you could use assistance on. The goal here
is not to land a date, but to gain insight on both yourself, and
the nature of strangers. There are many great lessons to be
taken away from this task.


Q: Do I have to ask a woman for help, what if she is in a group?

A: You do not have to ask a woman for help. It can be any
stranger passing by. You could also ask a group of people to
help as well. If you feel like opening a group of women is just
overwhelming for you right now, don't worry...you'll learn to
get comfortable with that as you apply the Stylelife skills we
teach. And, if you need a little extra help, remember that you
can join the Stylelife Academy, and we'll show you how to
systematically abolish your approach anxiety, step-by-step.


Q: Should I make up a lie about needing help with something, or
use something that I actually need help with?

A: You should ALWAYS strive to be honest in your interactions.
There is no reason to make up a lie, I'm sure we could all use
some help with something. For the best possible success keep
your opener as genuine as possible. Think of everything you need
to get this week that you don't have to do alone. Pick one of
these things and work it into your opener, then get out in the
field and immediately begin approaching.


That's all there is to it. And when you participate, you benefit
immediately because you will be gaining real world social
experience. Every time you push yourself past your comfort zone
you are going to grow and improve. Regardless if for you this is
in the form of a specific outward lesson, or a strictly internal
change, I look forward to hearing your personal results.


IT'S TIME TO MEET NEW PEOPLE...

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Become A Master in the Field
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Take a moment to remember the last time you saw a woman that you
thought looked like an amazing person to get to know. So many
crazy things can happen to our bodies in this situation.

When we want to approach, our feet can feel stuck to the ground.
Our stomachs churn and, if we manage to speak, we may even feel
dizzy. Then, if we muster up enough courage to approach her and
say hi, she may turn our backs on us. When this happens, it can
hurt. And the experience can lead to us avoid future scenarios
like that in the future.

Fast forward to the end of the night: going home alone can feel
frustrating, and sad. And these feelings tend to carry over to
other areas of our lives, such as work and family life.

These feelings are all too common, and countless other men have
struggled through them, but you don't have to.

The Stylelife Academy has been built, from the ground up, to
help you blow past all these negative feelings. It will help you
transform yourself, from the inside out, so that you can
experience the types of relationships you know deep down that
you deserve.

Complete and total control over your dating destiny.

Now, it's normal to ask yourself, "Can the Stylelife Academy
really help me master the dating game and the ability to attract
the women? Is it really as valuable as you say?"

Here are the results that other Stylelife students have
experienced:

Of the first 505 apprentices that were admitted to the academy 3
of them found that special someone and reported marriages, 281
got themselves a girlfriend...plus there were 637 instances of
one (or multiple) night stands, and 13 threesomes.

You tell us what your dating goals are, and we'll build a
program just for you that you can follow step-by-step, at your
own pace.

Nobody is telling you exactly what to do with these skills once
you have them...from marriages to one night stands it's all
possible...

I'm sure you can agree that there aren't many feelings in the
world as good as holding a beautiful woman in your arms, and
knowing she is absolutely crazy about you.

You have the potential within you to attract the exact kind of
women you have always desired. You just need the most effective
learning system and a dedicated team of coaches to show you the
way.

Great post!!!