Signs I May Be Missing

So i just had a drill weekend for national guard and in my unit there is a cute/sexy girl. We have drills one weekend a month and this was her second drill. I had noticed her before but not so as much as this weekend. On saturday when we went to the gym there was a guy harassing her and without thinking i went up and basically (expletives removed) told him to shove off etc. Right after that she stated right away thank and how nice that was and how very few guys stand up for girls. After that and for the rest of saturday and all day sunday she was flirting with me. She would look and smile at me at me from across he room. When we walked by each other she would intentionally run or brush into me. When we were at the theater for a briefing she sat next to me and would keep brushing her arm on mine and playfully tap it off the armrest. Her and i continued this and i even started to pick on her in a playful way. On sunday we struck up conversations and then she said one thing that stood out the most and that was this: "i wish guys were more like you, respectful, honest, and sweet."

Now everyone probably is thinking to themselves....why the hell dont i just ask her out.....well here is the problem. She has a boyfriend and was just out with him according to FaceBook. She never mentioned him to me in person the only thing she mentioned was a previous boyfriend who she dated several months ago.

What should i do? I DO HAVE her phone number and can text or call or IM her on facebook at my leisure. I am just looking for advice or opinions.

Thanks for all the help

Facebook . . . ugh . . . that site causes so much drama, lol.

The IMPORTANT thing here is, SHE didn't tell you she has a b/f. So, either she's unhappy with him, or looking for something on the side. With that said, why not drop her a text? You could call, but if he's around it may make it awkward for her.

If ur gonna contact her, I wld txt her.. like Tripp said, u don't want any awkwardness if her boyfriend's around.. Also, just keep talking to and hanging out with her.. Then, casually bring up her b/f one day and find out what's goin on there.. put ur mind at ease

Would it be appropriate then to stay on the down low for a couple of days then maybe start texting her and maybe possibly see if her and her friends would like to do something or hang out with me and my buddies as like a casual thing?

I definitely plan on talking to her soon and if all else doesnt work i will still see her in 3 weeks anyways

THANKS for ALL the help it definitely puts a lot of light on things and YES Facebook does cause alot of drama lol

First of all, I wouldn't wait to contact her. The whole "wait 3 days" thing is bullshit, lol.

I would suggest an isolated hang out first, since she's already flirting with you so much. If she backs up from that, then suggest a get together with your friends.

I wldn't wait to text her either simply bcz she already likes u and u 2 are obviously friends in the least... But, I disagree with Tripp (sorry babe), I think u should invite her out with u and ur friends just to casually hang out, nothing serious.. She wld definitely be more apt to do that with u... This way, u can feel things out with her while you all are hangin out.. Then, if u see that she is feeling u, ask her to do something more personal/just the two of u

HOTWHEELS wrote:

I wldn't wait to text her either simply bcz she already likes u and u 2 are obviously friends in the least... But, I disagree with Tripp (sorry babe)]

If you agreed with me on everything sweety . . . the partnership wouldn't be that great

Shut up.. it is great.. n u know it

One last question i promise. What should i do about her boyfriend i mean is is still "alls fair in love and war" or should i leave it be. Maybe i am thinking too much but could she be doing this becuz she is just friendly or do her actions - the flirting and all- speak louder?

THANKS SOO MUCH

L.A. Tripp wrote:

HOTWHEELS wrote:

I wldn't wait to text her either simply bcz she already likes u and u 2 are obviously friends in the least... But, I disagree with Tripp (sorry babe)]

If you agreed with me on everything sweety . . . the partnership wouldn't be that great

Baby if I agreed with u on everything it wouldn't be as exciting

LOL, Mrs. HOTWHEELS, baby . . . you've got a valid view point, but as you said, we wouldn't be as exciting if we both agreed all the time . . . so:

Her actions, according to what you've said, so far, say she wants more.

It IS possible she's a really friendly, really touchy feely girl . . . although those are few and far between.

Basically, assume there's attraction there at this point. I wouldn't even mention her b/f just yet. Wait and see if she says anything about him or not.

Your objective is to build attraction in her right now. DO play it safe, as my wing suggested, as far as staying back a BIT, and not taking the escalation FAST, but do flirt to build the attraction.

LOL. What the hell is wrong with that . . . is a simple issue of calibration . . . or rather miscalibration

Sure, he could pop the question to her after he's been feeling her out . . . and if he times it wrong or something, it could completely blow the whole mood. If he waits till she brings it up, he wouldn't have to worry about that.

Sorry lol.. I'm tired, I'm not suggesting coming right out and askin her about her b/f.. she hasn't brought him up and is obviously flirting with u n stuff.. So here's what I suggest (I guess I thought of some stuff but didn't actually post it since I just looked over all my posts lol so I will clarify it for u lol)...

Keep txtn her... keep flirting and building attraction with her as she seems to be doing with u.. invite her out to hang out with u and ur friends.. feel her out while u r hangin out and see if u can get clarity in that time... ie.. she if she ever mentions her b/f, she if she mentions something to u about liking u etc.. or simply see if the flirting and attraction is really strong, and if it is, and she still hasn't mentioned her b/f, then bring it up by sayin somethin like I suggested above b4 u go any further or waste anymore of ur time on a girl that is taken.. unless u wld like to simply remain friends with her....

That sums up my opinion on ur situation lol

Dodge,



Girls don't like to choose. And if you plan on getting laid, do NOT make her choose.

She'll choose her boyfriend over you 100% of the time.

We've all liked more than one person before. That being said, there is nothing wrong with her having a boyfriend and you being the dick on the side.

(I prefer being dick on the side)

Like I said, if you're looking for sex, don't bring him up; go with things as normal and if you guys hit it off and fuck, give her the best 2 minutes of your life.

Note: Once you've fucked enough guys' girlfriends, you know better than to bring him up. Just out charm him and never look back as-if you're beating him in a race.

Btw - if you're looking for a relationship off the bat tho, follow Stephs advice. It's def not bad advice and it's kinda cute how innocently she thinks.

Seven, certified homewrecker

I have to echo Steph's post here.

DEFINITELY make sure you are THE BEST lay she's EVER had IF you want her to come back for more. That's something I do with EVERY girl I'm with . . . and at this moment I have SEVERAL that I could call on at ANY TIME for some . . .

And, the whole calibration issue I brought up is to do with finding out if she wants out of her relationship or not.