Those of you following my Case Study in the Report Section, I had a detailed and long conversation with my old friend and mentor Decibel on the matter, how I realized what I was doing wrong and what it really meant to the community as a whole.
We discussed the matter and he helped me by talking about the matter of Presence, something the community has somewhat sidestepped for a long time. For me it came down to a simple sentence which appeared to me today
Take HER into the equation, how else will you calibrate?
To start with explaining calibration,
The art of pick-up largely comes in the form of calibration: correctly
interpreting the communicated and subcommunicated messages a set is
telegraphing, and altering your game in response from one moment to the
next in order to steer your targets toward seduction. The only way to get
good at calibrating is to spend many many hours in field sharpening your
skill set. With enough practice you will finally 'see the matrix' as PUAs call
it, being able to look upon your interactions and competently control them
where you want them to go. - The PUA Field Guide
Calibration basically means picking up on Body Language, subtle hints and cues that help you steer off wrong vantage points and towards the right path, taking into account her messages, verbal and non verbal and gauging what is having an effect and what is not.
However her Presence is something we don't always take into account.
By her Presence, I mean her inner self, her demeanor and spirit. What we gauge from a target is her outer signals, how she responds to our attempts and gambits, but we often fail to take into account her; upbringing, wants, needs, social inhibitions, emotional needs and her presence
Let's take my case as an example, we have a girl who has been dropping me hints for weeks, that her value is less(again, value not being about worth), her need for being held, for being cuddled, her want to be romanced and from studying her interaction, her utter innocence.
Versus another target of mine, who is adventurous, spontaneous, wild, energetic and sexual.
My usual approach consists of cocky/funny, value game, banter, kino, sexualizing, kissing and hopefully laying or setting up a Day2 for laying.
This approach has thrown Target 1 off, bouncing off her Presence! However target 2 has eaten it up, ending in my lap within moments and eventually laying her the next day.
Calibrating against subtle hints and cues works well off target 2, but target 1 shows less hints, she sidesteps most advances by shrugging them off and blowing you off, her presence doesn't mix well with mine.
What is the solution?
Calibration needs to take into account her presence of being, by lowering my value and showing her a more deeper emotional connection, I can draw her closer and continue working my game from there.
Remember to take matters of the 'soul' into the equation, or how else will you calibrate?