Newbie from Italy

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Hey man and welcome to the forum.

When you're talking to strange women and they are ignoring you and are non-responsive, that shows that it's the vibe you're putting off to them. You're giving them a vibe that you are creepy or something similar to that.

That can be fixed. That's a good thing. At least you know where you are.

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Exactly. You're right about that. The problem IS your self-image. It's what we call inner game. It's your confidence level about who you are. You're not comfortable within your own skin.

I do understand the desperate feeling as well. I felt that way myself until I lost my virginity when I was about 19. Even after that first girl I felt desperate, thinking I would never find another girl. I completely understand the feeling.

Now, today, some say that I'm "unemployed" because I don't work a "normal" job. But, my identity isn't tied up in what I do daily or the lifestyle that I lead, as in I don't try to keep up with Jones's in an effort to derive my self-worth from that.

Without love it all seems worthless. Yes, I definitely understand that one as well. In fact, when you have a person that really means something in your life, it truly does make everything else just something that you share with them. The material stuff isn't the main thing.

It's all about how you feel about yourself. That's where it starts. You have to like yourself first. You have to be ok with who you are, with or without whatever job you do. With or without whatever you drive or where you live.

You have to know who you are. Not who the world wants you to be, but who you actually are.

And btw, 24 is young

Welcome!

I love Italians

You are a decent looking guy so there is no reason you cant attract girls. If they are unresponsive then its definitely due to how you approach and your body language (a good starting point).

As for being desperate...you shouldn't need anyone to make yourself feel happy. If you ever did get a gf the problems would still remain. I believe that you must learn to love yourself first. Find a hobby and discover yourself.

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Umm . . . no . . . you don't like yourself. Or more correctly, you don't love yourself. If you did, you would not have made the post you just made.

You have a deep feeling of suffering and desperation. Well, a lot of us feel suffering at times. Desperation, still somewhat normal, but not all the time. This is where it turns bad.

What kind of music do you like and what do you program?

Why are you hating women and their sexual side? What is it about women and their sexual side that you hate?