Helpppp!!!!!

can u guys help me come up with a pretty good dvv story mainly focusing on pre selection by women.

i was supposed to go to this party i couldnt get a ride and i need to explain it to this hb 8.5 i have a class with. whats a few general ways i could go with this??

OK, first of all, does she know that you don't have transportation?

I'd come from the angle of saying "gee, nobody's dependable these days". Own it and use it to show that you can't count on people. Maybe next time she'll offer a ride . . . in more ways than one.

I don't quite understand why you have to explain it at all. "Oh that's right, that was Friday? How was it?"

Explaining it away seems like you are making excuses for yourself...

i think he means, like just make it sound like one of your friends was unreliable..
is that what you meant or are you talking about something new?

My point is that you shouldn't have to make excuses for yourself; I feel like that makes a person seem weak-willed. And if you take someone asking why you weren't around as an opportunity to forcefeed a story to increase her opinion of you, especially if you are making up a story to do this, it seems transparent and, quite frankly, pathetic. You want to be impressive in who you are, not who you say you are.

stevo, you are 19, so either freshman or sophomore, right? I don't want to spoil the mystery but you can probably expect another party or two before you're done with college. You'll have plenty of shots!

As far as looking for a story to relate your value (I assume you meant dhv and not dvv?), there is a great article somewhere here about displaying your value in confidence and passion. I can't remember who wrote/posted it, but... maybe JSmooth? Take a look around for it. The quick version of the article is that having the confidence to understand that the things you are interested in are important because you are interested in them is a very attractive quality. Hint: it's the confidence, not content, that matters. So if what you were doing instead of being at this party does come up, sure don't feel like you have to hide the fact you would have been there if not for a ride (like Tripp said, she might even offer to drive you next time), but don't feel like you need to make up an excuse for not having been there. You should be self-sufficient enough to have had a good time even if you weren't there. Get it? That's a dhv.

Now, social proof? Pre-selection? Guess who the first person who needs to believe your social proof and pre-selection is. That's right, it's you. Think of it this way: why would any girl looking for fun and excitement waste her time talking to a guy who is so obviously worthless he doesn't even believe in himself? That's a trick statement because every person has worthy attributes, but if you don't really believe in your own value (i.e., instead of thinking you were worse off for not having been graced by the party, think the party was worse off for your absence), many people will see believing in your value as just too much energy to spend. It's like pre-rejecting yourself. And I firmly believe that making up a story for what you doing and trying to squeeze social proof and pre-selection as thematic elements of this story screams, unequivocally, "I think I have to lie about my life in order to make you want to talk to me."

Be yourself, my man, and be proud of that. You want this girl begging for your affection, not weighing the merits of your excuses.

Jenkzzsta, yes.

Karma, you hit it.

Karma wrote:

My point is that you shouldn't have to make excuses for yourself; I feel like that makes a person seem weak-willed. And if you take someone asking why you weren't around as an opportunity to forcefeed a story to increase her opinion of you, especially if you are making up a story to do this, it seems transparent and, quite frankly, pathetic. You want to be impressive in who you are, not who you say you are.

stevo, you are 19, so either freshman or sophomore, right? I don't want to spoil the mystery but you can probably expect another party or two before you're done with college. You'll have plenty of shots!

As far as looking for a story to relate your value (I assume you meant dhv and not dvv?), there is a great article somewhere here about displaying your value in confidence and passion. I can't remember who wrote/posted it, but... maybe JSmooth? Take a look around for it. The quick version of the article is that having the confidence to understand that the things you are interested in are important because you are interested in them is a very attractive quality. Hint: it's the confidence, not content, that matters. So if what you were doing instead of being at this party does come up, sure don't feel like you have to hide the fact you would have been there if not for a ride (like Tripp said, she might even offer to drive you next time), but don't feel like you need to make up an excuse for not having been there. You should be self-sufficient enough to have had a good time even if you weren't there. Get it? That's a dhv.

Now, social proof? Pre-selection? Guess who the first person who needs to believe your social proof and pre-selection is. That's right, it's you. Think of it this way: why would any girl looking for fun and excitement waste her time talking to a guy who is so obviously worthless he doesn't even believe in himself? That's a trick statement because every person has worthy attributes, but if you don't really believe in your own value (i.e., instead of thinking you were worse off for not having been graced by the party, think the party was worse off for your absence), many people will see believing in your value as just too much energy to spend. It's like pre-rejecting yourself. And I firmly believe that making up a story for what you doing and trying to squeeze social proof and pre-selection as thematic elements of this story screams, unequivocally, "I think I have to lie about my life in order to make you want to talk to me."

Be yourself, my man, and be proud of that. You want this girl begging for your affection, not weighing the merits of your excuses.

= One of the best posts I read here.