The difference between wanting and needing.

Can a girl tell when you talk to her that you "want" her? Sure she can.

Can a girl tell when you talk to her that you "need" her? Aha, that's the slippery slope. If you come across as "needy", that's bad. Very bad.

She is gonna know that you "want" her, especially if she's attractive at all. But the fact that you don't "need" her is what makes the big difference.

If you "need" her you're likely to be clingy. Obviously she doesn't want that. Just like you don't want that from her. However, you both want someone to "want" you, so that's not a bad thing. That's desirable, in fact, because that leads to SEDUCTION.

L.A. Tripp wrote:

Can a girl tell when you talk to her that you "want" her? Sure she can.

Can a girl tell when you talk to her that you "need" her? Aha, that's the slippery slope. If you come across as "needy", that's bad. Very bad.

She is gonna know that you "want" her, especially if she's attractive at all. But the fact that you don't "need" her is what makes the big difference.

If you "need" her you're likely to be clingy. Obviously she doesn't want that. Just like you don't want that from her. However, you both want someone to "want" you, so that's not a bad thing. That's desirable, in fact, because that leads to SEDUCTION.

Absolutely...but one of the hardest things ive found to accomplish is not giving off the want vibe right away (what every other guy does). Girls seem to intuitively feel that you want them, and if shes hot enough, that will potentially disqualify you if she senses that right away.

Theres one girl i have been gaming off and on for months...shes probably the hottest girl ive ever talked to face to face...no matter how much i ignore her or neg her or disqualify her she knows i wana rip her clothes off...ugh

I think once you can hide that intention of wanting them and only display it when its to your advantage your going to see alot of success.

how do you put this is into a good vibe before you meet, or like setting up a date

Juice wrote:

how do you put this is into a good vibe before you meet, or like setting up a date

First of all, remember, you can only control yourself, not her. I say that because I want you to remember it all starts in your own mind.

Now, realizing that, you have to understand that it's all in your own mindset, how YOU are thinking about yourself, her, and the situation you want to set up, BEFORE you meet her or contact her in any way.

You have to have your mindset OFF of wanting to rip her clothes off at that moment, as Ka said, and ON to wanting to simply hang out with her as a friend. The way your mindset is will have a lot to do with the vibe that ends up coming across.

One of things that I still have difficulty with is easing a timid kitten into my arms, without startling the poor thing. So my friend offered me some much needed advice. She said don't rush into picking her up, but relax and become more patient. Oddly enough, that advice worked, and now everytime the kitten hears my voice, or smells my cologne she comes out of the room, meowing, meowing. This is the same premise with girls, don't rush with neediness, but want a preferred advantageous outcome. Dead-on with this one LA. peace,lvoe and succe SS

Yeah getting shy girls to warm up to me is pretty hard for me... because I think with them you have to be more patient