diamond in the rough

hey guys! im just getting through the venusian arts HB and i was thinking about how you show higher value to attract,i know the HB is for help with 10s and confident women,but what about insecure girls and girls with low selfesteem because there seems to be so many of them,i live beside a rough neighbourhood,not a no go area but just a bit less off,i notice a lot of couples get together in that estate and ive seen some very good looking girls liveing there going out with wasters,ive put this down to and correct me if im wrong that the girls have low value in themselves because of where there from,that they think people judge them because of where there from!theres this girl i like from there and i tried to talk to her before and she was nice to me but looked a bit suprised and made her excuses and left,this was a good while back and i found out that a couple of her exes were loosers,i was thinking about trying again now ive a better knolledge but im thinking is neging and dhving the right thing to do here,because i dont think she has the value she should to start with,thanx

For the most part man, you're right on here. Yes, the self-esteem, or lack of, is their problem. And yes, the negging needs to be thrown out the window for these girls. However, the DHVing is still of value. Think about it. The guys they do hook up with, they believe in their own mind that these guys DO have higher value than they themselves have. And they are attracted to that. So yes, you do still need to have higher value. And yes, they are surprised and intimidated by you, you're correct on that as well. Which means that, yes, they believe that you do already have higher value than they do, however that doesn't mean that you don't still say things that further demonstrate that value.

With these girls what you have to do is build COMFORT initially so that they realize you are WARM to them and not cold like the rest of the world. Building attraction with them will be EASY, so build the comfort right off the bat to get them to fell comfortable enough with you to open themselves up and their personal world up to you.

Comfort=>Rapport Break=>Attraction=>Escalation

Hobbit wrote:

Comfort=>Rapport Break=>Attraction=>Escalation

agreed!!!