Top 10 Mistakes In Approaching Women

Top 10 Mistakes In Approaching Women



Are you able to approach attractive women consistently and grab their attention?

Let's face it: Most men are clueless when it comes 
to approaching women and they make a lot of costly mistakes. 
Are you making these same mistakes? If you are,
I can almost guarantee that it's turning away women
you could be DATING right NOW.

Keep in mind that I am writing this article for the
average looking guy. If you have Brad Pitt looks
and the body of Adonis, you could make some minor mistakes,
and get away with them, as you'd have more flexibility and room for error.

There are a lot of mistakes men repeatedly make
upon first approaching women and the following is a list of the top 10:



Approaching Women Mistake 1



*Interrogation

Approaching women and asking too many rapid fire questions, 
"What do you do? Come here often? What do you study? 
Where do you normally hang out? Was Colonel Sanders 
really a military colonel?"

This is trying too hard to establish rapport and if you're 
an attractive woman who is hit on 20 times a day, 
it becomes plain boring conversation after a while.

It's fine ask a couple of questions in the proper context,
and these may vary based on the circumstances, 
but playing a game of 20 questions is almost a sure way to get yourself blown out.



Approaching Women Mistake 2





*Poor Body Language

Poor body language and poor demeanor. This includes leaning in,
groping too fast, not smiling, and touching her awkwardly,
which will creep her out.

While carrying yourself in a confident demeanor will help attract her to you, the opposite also holds true. Poor body language makes a person appear needy and desperate.

Approaching Women Mistake 3



*Over-complimenting

Paying her too many compliments. If you're kissing ass, 
you're blowing your chances. That's as simple as you can get. 
You can forget the dear-Abbey advice that tells you to 
walk up to her and kiss her ass. That advice and $3.85 will 
get you a cup of cappuccino these days.



And by the way, guess what, if she is truly a knockout, 
she knows it. Do you walk up to Bill Gates and say,
"Hey man, you're rich! That's cool!" He knows.

If you're going to pay a compliment, make sure it's a 
deserved one. Please stay away from creepy compliments,
"Nice legs, nice butt, nice curves." Those types of 
compliments at best will get you a polite "Thank You" 
and at worst will creep her out.



Approaching Women Mistake 4



*Not smiling.

This one isn't a complete mistake as it may not necessarily
blow your chance. However, a friendly smile or even a smirk 
will go a long way in making her feel more at ease. Plus smiling displays confidence and that's attractive. More on that later.



Approaching Women Mistake 5



*Offering to buy her a drink.

Again, it's not going to necessarily blow your chances, 
but you're wasting your money.



Take out that 10 dollar bill and use it as a piece of toilet paper
because that's what you're doing when your opening line is,
"Can I buy you a drink?"



Plus it puts her in an awkward position. Let's say she is
actually a cool girl who just isn't interested for 
whatever reason at that moment. If she refuses your
free drink, now she'll be perceived as a bitch 
who turned down your generous offer. If she takes your offer, 
now she feels like she has an obligation to entertain
you for a period of time.



You would have been much better off just having a nice conversation with her.

(And I am not even delving into the gold-diggers
who prey on suckers and chumps to buy them 
free drinks all night, every single time they go out.)



Approaching Women Mistake 6



*Self-deprecating humor

Self-deprecating humor is not attractive.
Unless you're a cool, suave, confident motherf***er, stay away from this. For the average guy, this makes you look insecure.



Neurotic Woody Allen humor might get you laughs,
but they'll be in conjunction with bits of sympathy. 
She'll probably never feel attraction for you.



Approaching Women Mistake 7



*Being Pre-disqualified

If you're at a bar/night club, and you're standing
around HOVERING around certain girls just
ogling at them, they will notice. Know that women 
stronger intuition than you, and they know you're there.
Trust me on this, even if they are not looking at you, 
they know of your existence.



If you are hovering around for no reason, and/or standing 
in a corner just gawking at the girls, you're pre-disqualified.
You've already been written off like an end of the year bad business expense.



When you do finally approach, no matter how great
you think you're opening line is, you're climbing an uphill battle.



Approaching Women Mistake 8



*Mundane Conversation

Talking about 1 subject the whole time.
So you started a conversation, it's going well,
and you're having a nice dialogue but it's about 
the same damn topic for the entire time.



Let's say you're both into fitness, or restaurants,
or hot rods for that matter. So you talk about this 
one-subject for 20 minutes.



While at first, this seems like you're building rapport, 
you're shooting yourself in the foot pal.
She'll feel like you have nothing else to discuss afterwards
and she won't be too apt to meet you again. 
You may get a phone number, but she'll most likely
flake in this scenario.



Approaching Women Mistake 9



*Bad Breath

OK, I know you're thinking, "Oh come on Cameron!
Are you really going to mention the obvious?" Yes! Because
you'd be surprised how many people walk around 
with bad breath. And if I can't stand it, imagine how she feels.
While you're trying be suave, she'd be looking for a fire escape.



Approaching Women Mistake 10



*Being overly Nervous

This is the # 1 Mistake. Sorry fellas, being nervous
is not attractive. While there may be a few girls here
and there who find it cute, most women want a
confident man. I don't care what the pop psychologists
or "Experts" on the radio and TV tell you,
being nervous and fidgety is unattractive. (disclaimer:
even confident men experience a bit of nervous energy,
or a rush, and that's OK.)



I am talking about being a nervous wreck that is
very apparent. This will kill your chances faster
than showing up in a job interview drunk and topless.



The good news is that you can do something about it. 
The biggest mistake men make is to try and be macho 
because they don't want to admit to themselves that
perhaps they can use a bit of help in this area. Once upon a time, 
I really didn't know what to say upon approaching a beautiful woman.
Finally, I decided to do something about it.



You can too. A new attitude starts today.

Nice post !
I think you can fix all of them consciously, except the last.
The nervousness you cannot fix. I'm still a bit nervous. A lot less then before. However, while fixing the other , I find that the nervousness becomes lesser and less, it's like it is automatically connected with all the other stuff ( the routines, the things you know, your experience, .. ).
Trying to keep eye contact is something you can directly control ( whereas nervousness isn't ) , which might also have a good influence undirectly/unconsciously on your nervousness/lack of self-confidence.

V

Great post Nuked.

V you can fix that nervousness in a lot of ways. You can meditate before you go out, you can go out more to numb yourself from that, being concious of your body language, and other things.

Remember, nervousness is mostly an inner game issue V. The more solid your inner game, the less nervous you will be in general. Whether that's walking by a group of 12 super hot babes . . . or walking into your job.

Nuked, you absolutely rocked that topic my man. I am in agreement with all of those expressed sentiments. I also feel wholeheartedly that mediatation has helped me become more relaxed, and less outcome dependent when in the company of MOTOS-credit scott mckay. peace,lvoe, and succe Ss